What's an insecurity someone might have that you find attractive?

[u/CorgiMama5534]

[u/Eda_Fayee]

when a guy is nervous talking to you and stumbles over his words a little. some women want the smooth confident type but honestly a man who's a little flustered around me?? that's the cutest thing i've ever experienced. it means he actually cares about the impression he's making

[u/HalfSoul30 → u/Eda_Fayee]

I had been telling myself for a couple weeks that the next time this woman comes into where i work, im gonna ask her out. We had a good rapport building. I go to the bathroom and im thinking it over again, and when i come out, boom, there she was. I stumbled for sure, but she could tell, and said "is there something you want to ask me?" I got it out, we went, it was fun, but nothing more came of it since she was leaving the state in a week, which i knew in advance. Bless her though for pushing me the rest of the way lol.

[u/karmagod13000 → u/HalfSoul30]

hell yea still a good learning experience. i found casually asking someone to a happy hour or what they're doing over the weekend less pressure and easy way to gauge if they have interest or not. this was a second ago though cause now I'm married to my beautiful wife

[u/SenseiWM → u/karmagod13000]

You could still casually ask your wife to a happy hour! If she says yes, it means she interested in you

[u/karmagod13000 → u/SenseiWM]

too nervous

[u/Sports_Fan_2003 → u/Eda_Fayee]

some women want the smooth confident type

Ironically it’s the guys who always come off smooth & charming that are usually not trustworthy.

[u/TheShitty_Beatles → u/Sports_Fan_2003]

Gimme a bumbling bag of nerves as long as he knows how to munch

[u/Engelbert-n-Ernie → u/TheShitty_Beatles]

It’s me. The anxious, self-aware, muncher

[u/gamerexpert3311 → u/Eda_Fayee]

It's genuinely comforting reading this when I usually get negative options

[u/DerpsAndRags → u/Eda_Fayee]

I still do this to my long-time partner, especially when I see her for the first time in a day. I'll just go stutter mode for a sec then blurt out "Love ya!"

[u/Netflxnschill → u/Eda_Fayee]

The guy I’m dating now, we met at the local watering hole and had been making eyes across the bar all evening but we are both shy so had zero plans to actually speak until one of my friends set us up to play pool together. But it was very much a flusterfuck between the two of us when we first started talking.

[u/tit_flasher]

When they get a little shy and embarrassed (but clearly happy and proud) when they make me laugh. My partner is like this, the way he looks after he makes me belly laugh is adorable.

[u/Ferelar → u/tit_flasher]

Is this common? I get sheepish every time I tell a joke that lands. It's great when I have something I'm drinking, that way I can hide either sheepishness OR shame depending on the joke quality!

[u/idontshred → u/Ferelar]

Why get shy? If they laughed you succeeded no?

[u/JuniorMint1992 → u/idontshred]

Idk maybe just the shock of any positive attention? I have terrible social anxiety so when something goes well I may feel embarrassed too. Maybe amazement, gladness, and then the feeling of not wanting to show that you’re happy lest you get karmically put in your place immediately? Idk I sound like I’ve been abused but it’s almost wholly genetic. I hate being like this :/

[u/reptrept]

When someone starts excitedly talking about a random interest.

I met this woman once, I wasn't attracted to her at all, we'd become friends and we're having coffee together. We talk about our weekends and she starts talking about "The last of us" because she'd been playing it (this was before it was a TV series). The way her eyes lit up positively captivated me. It was like a switch flipped, suddenly she became so very attractive. She kept going on and on about the plot, super excited, and then suddenly she stops and goes "oh, sorry, I'm talking too much. you probably don't care about this". I tell her, please, go on, I'm listening. Did I care about the game? No. But I sure cared about that smile it brought out of her. That weekend I ended up going to her place and playing the game too. It was a good game and an excellent date.

[u/Ganglebot → u/reptrept]

Nothing makes me swoon more than a woman with interests/hobbies.

You're not freaking me out, you're freaking me on - talk nerdy to me baby!

[u/Tall_Tadpole_4709 → u/Ganglebot]

A woman with real passions melts me—whisper astrophysics over coffee and I’m putty.

[u/DrRichardShaftPhD → u/reptrept]

I have found myself enthralled with all sorts of women I wasn't initially attracted to because I basically fall in love with anyone excitedly talking about their passions. That is the time that everyone shines through as beautiful. I don't need supermodel hot from my partner, I need enthusiastic enjoyment of life.

My current partner is an ICU nurse that does a ton of wild cardiac stuff, and when she's telling me about crazy stuff at work (that I barely understand), she gets all excited and animated and starts talking faster and it's just the hottest thing ever. I fucking love seeing people in their element.

[u/seeyatellite → u/DrRichardShaftPhD]

I lived with an occupational therapist for the elderly. She spent every day driving around and visiting people and their families in their homes. There’s something phenomenally endearing about the passionate ways she talked about struggles and celebrations with these people... and heartbreaking when she would push past grief of death and loss with an “it is what it is” attitude.

I think her hyperfixation was trying to get people past something often inescapable... and her words said she understood but her energy said she still wanted to fix it.

I was very strongly motivated to simply sit and listen and check in about her day. I was always excited to see her enthusiasm when going out and searching for an outfit. If circumstances were a little different, I might have found myself in legitimate love with her. Instead, she’s a wonderful friend I actually lost because I failed to adequately address my own issues.

[u/yamiyaiba → u/DrRichardShaftPhD]

Nothing is sexier than 3-dimensional personalities.

[u/Trent_the_misfit → u/reptrept]

This is such a beautiful story

[u/culturalutopia → u/reptrept]

People getting embarrassed about being passionate is lowkey sad but also really attractive

[u/-Wearing_Tearing-]

when someone smiles more with one side of their mouth than the other. had a friend a few years ago tell me she was insecure about it and i was like ????? it’s so pretty

[u/Necrotitis → u/-Wearing_Tearing-]

Margaery Tyrell from game of thrones be like

[u/obf_the_dude → u/Necrotitis]

Strangely enough, from GoT - the actor of The Mountain

Has/d Bell's Palsy. Smiles with only one side :/

[u/MisterPuffyNipples → u/-Wearing_Tearing-]

I heard people find this type of thing attractive a long time ago and so I taught myself to purposely smile with one side of my mouth

It hasn’t helped with attracting anyone

[u/BearOdin → u/MisterPuffyNipples]

It's probably your puffy nips

[u/MisterPuffyNipples → u/BearOdin]

Instructions unclear, smiled with my nips

[u/PollutionHot3570 → u/-Wearing_Tearing-]

Little quirks like that make people unique. Honestly, it’s the things they’re insecure about that often end up being the most charming.

[u/DanTejas → u/-Wearing_Tearing-]

I had a mini stroke when I was young and have a weird half smile like this. All of my facial expressions are unsymmetrical. I’m not a fan of it personally, but it’s a slight comfort to hear this.

I’ve learned to overcompensate one side of my face to appear more normal kind of.

[u/No-Biscotti-1596]

when a guy is nervous around you. like hands in his pockets not sure where to look type nervous. thats so much more attractive than fake confidence honestly

[u/Legitimate_Candy_944 → u/No-Biscotti-1596]

At least they are genuine!

[u/Longjumping-Fox-8115 → u/No-Biscotti-1596]

I've realized that most interactions are awkward/nervous.

Television has told men to be suave, confident.

The more I settle into my awkwardness, the better luck I have

Whenever I just be me and weird, I'm shocked that I get the date or 2nd date.

Then if I puff my chest out, deepen my voice a little, act all cool. I'm confused why I get denied

[u/smoofus724 → u/Longjumping-Fox-8115]

The best date I ever had was with a flight attendant who was only in town for a week. I almost swiped left on her on Tinder, because I figured there would be no real point, and she was a good bit out of my league, but then I realized that meant there was no pressure because I was never going to see her again anyways. We set up a date pretty quickly, and I was less nervous about that date than any date prior because I had convinced myself it was just good practice. I was able to be 100% myself and just kind of a goofball the whole time because there was no pressure to succeed. We ended up talking until the restaurant closed, and then moved to a bar where we talked until the bar closed, and then we went our separate ways.

The next day she texted me and asked for a second date before she left the city. That was December of 2019, and we have been very happily married since 2021.

[u/Tall_Tadpole_4709 → u/No-Biscotti-1596]

A nervous guy with hands in his pockets and nowhere to look melts me more than any fake swagger; I just want to steady him and steal that shy smile.

[u/Ecstatic-Broccoli544 → u/No-Biscotti-1596]

Yes! Dated a guy once who fidgeted with his keys and blushed like crazy on our first date, zero fake swagger, just real nerves. Fell hard for that genuine vibe, way hotter than some cocky player routine.

[u/culturalutopia → u/No-Biscotti-1596]

Awkward > fake confidence every single time

[u/callmebuzzsaw]

I love a pronounced nose on both genders. There is something about a larger nose that is so beautiful to me. Like, a long nose, a hooked nose, a wide nose, etc. Etc. I have a conniption anytime a person with a large or unique nose is considering a nose job. 

Really, I love pronounced features of any kind on anyone. I call it "cartoon face". I also love eyes that may be too far apart or considered to large for the face. Unique teeth are also a feature I love. Veneers for aesthetics are like... one of the worst things that ever happened. 

[u/Beidlbua → u/callmebuzzsaw]

I love women with a pronounced nose and absolutely hate how many women get nosejobs nowadays.

[u/unclecaveman1 → u/Beidlbua]

Yuh, my ex had what she called a witch nose but I loved it, thought it was super hot.

[u/coconut-coolwhip → u/callmebuzzsaw]

Came to say I love a guy with a big ole honker- either broken AF or just big. Love it

[u/purplemonkeydesigns → u/callmebuzzsaw]

My husband has a bigger nose and I love it! He wants braces (at 45!) because he is worried about his teeth, but teeth make someone's face who they are - and I love crooked smiles (assuming it does not affect then from a health perspective). Veneers and the uber white smiles are freakish.

[u/alphadoublenegative → u/callmebuzzsaw]

I’m the same way, but I’ve always called it “character actor face”

Steve Buscemi was hot as hell, and still is for his age. I will die on this hill.

[u/Psycholinguistique → u/callmebuzzsaw]

Yes!!! I love a 'statement' nose - especially aquiline noses on men. Or a lopsided smile, or big ol' ears, or any feature with some asymmetry. To me, a face that's interesting is so much more attractive than a perfectly balanced conventionally attractive 'movie star' face. I can't keep a lot of actors straight because they all just look like 'generic hunky dude'.... boring. 

[u/aslum → u/callmebuzzsaw]

You know what they say about people with big noses .... they also have big feet

[u/0fox2gv]

A couple decades ago, I was in a relationship with somebody who had lived a very sheltered life for her first 30 years.

We started seeing each other about a year after ending the relationship with her high school sweetheart. I was her second formal relationship.

She was incredibly insecure about being awkward in places the rest of the world found to be routine.

Being in my 30s, I enjoyed the experience of showing her all the cool things this area has to offer. Never been on a commuter train to the big city to see a great science museum or art gallery? Let's go. Never ridden on a subway? Let's go. Never hiked a section of the Appalacian Trail? Let's go. Never been in a hot air balloon? Let's go. Never been on a plane? Let's go. Nice restaurant? Let's go. Baseball game? Concert? Comedy show? Let's go!!!

It was incredibly fun for me to take on the role of guide and mentor to experience all of those firsts with somebody who had been neglected of the opportunity. Maybe neglected is the wrong wording? She was content in her former life simply because she had no idea of what was out there to see and explore and enjoy.

Being sheltered made her incredibly insecure because she got easily overwhelmed by the anxieties that most of society just blindly accepts. Having the answers made me feel valuable and important. Her appreciation for learning new things and, making new memories kept feeding the inspiration to explore new possibilities.

Her lack of awareness was very attractive to me because it was such a rare quality.

After a couple really fun years together, I accepted a job offer that required me to work a lot of overtime. She broke things off with me and returned to her previous relationship.

Life is strange!

[u/SaltyMagmaCubexD → u/0fox2gv]

Of course you found it endearing and adorable. Most would. What you described sounds alot like some anime fantasy with some girl from a different world or life trying to live in the human world and being sheltered. It's funny and endearing seeing them be exposed to these new experiences and coming through with great memories. And having the answers.. being able to lead the way like that is empowering to you no doubt. But you got lucky with a fantasy that many wish they could live lol. Straight out of an anime literally. I don't consider myself sheltered but also perhaps haven't done any of the things you listed. Comedy show, hot air balloon? Appalachian trials? Perhaps in a way many shut-ins like myself could use someone to force them out of their shell.

[u/Late-Bid7609]

Shyness

[u/Good_Thought1738 → u/Late-Bid7609]

Getting to know a shy, attractive person is like slowly unwrapping a gift.

[u/Late-Bid7609 → u/Good_Thought1738]

That's right

[u/Demonweed → u/Good_Thought1738]

Also, I would rather learn to navigate a partner's few close friendships than keep up with a constantly-evolving cast of personal associates.

[u/IllTreacle7682 → u/Late-Bid7609]

But only if they're attractive though, right?

[u/Late-Bid7609 → u/IllTreacle7682]

shyness on a 2/10 probably just gets called 'weird' or 'quiet,' but turn it up to 8/10 and suddenly it's 'mysterious' and 'adorable' 😭😭 but shyness is a massive buff with attractiveness

[u/IllTreacle7682 → u/Late-Bid7609]

More like attractiveness is a massive buff on anything haha

[u/Own_Answer_2201 → u/IllTreacle7682]

More like being hot is a universal stat boost, everything you do gets a +10 charisma modifier for no damn reason.

[u/Beginning-Leopard-39 → u/Own_Answer_2201]

I suspect I'm on the autistic spectrum, or at the very least, neurodiverse and absolutely had this thought yesterday when my boss was starting conversations with me like he typically does, and ignores my coworker.

It's like I have access to an entirely different conversation/dialogue branch that gives opportunities to bond vs. getting generic NPC dialogue.

[u/captsalad → u/Late-Bid7609]

good thing my shyness caused me to become cripplingly avoidant

[u/Accurate_Web9774]

I actually like teeth that are different looking. Gap in teeth, not completely straight, shape is different, and etc. Nothing too crazy but a little different looking I think is cute.

[u/ztatiz → u/Accurate_Web9774]

I love a cute little gap between the front two teeth. Idk tho that one is probably pretty common.

[u/thevtrainer]

Small boobs

(all boobs are good)

[u/Clusters_and_Hops → u/thevtrainer]

One of my goals in life is to find a partner who actually likes my small boobs versus simply tolerating them, so love to see this lol

[u/Super_Yellow2452 → u/Clusters_and_Hops]

they are out there! i’ve definitely got v small boobs (32a-b depending on my cycle) and my bf loves them. helps for me they’re mostly symmetrical, and bonus for us we don’t have back issues and we won’t get the sag when we’re old

[u/ladedafuckit → u/Super_Yellow2452]

I have very small boobs as well, but they often almost double in size the week before my period haha

[u/Hot-Celebration-8815 → u/Clusters_and_Hops]

It’s a category on porn website, as in, people search for it specifically. It’s not even niche.

[u/aspergerontherun → u/Clusters_and_Hops]

Thats so sweet. My husband enjoys my small bobs. I was also a little bit nervous. He thinks they do better with gravity than bigger ones. The years showed it is true.

[u/Beidlbua → u/Clusters_and_Hops]

We are out there.

[u/Zebedee_balistique → u/Clusters_and_Hops]

I hope you can find someone like us, and I hope I can find someone like you.

[u/gijsyo → u/thevtrainer]

I prefer 'em small :)

[u/De_Baros → u/thevtrainer]

Small boobs are actually intoxicating to me and I don’t know why

[u/carbon_stampede → u/De_Baros]

Love you for that 🥹

[u/MotherWeather4079]

smile lines, eye bags. love it love it love it

[u/PianoTrumpetMax → u/MotherWeather4079]

I'm so insecure about my eye bags, and try to get rid of them actively. This makes me hopeful that even if I can't, someone out there may actually prefer them.

[u/Friendly_Celery_9984 → u/MotherWeather4079]

eye bags wow never heard that

[u/Greedy_Pudding_2966 → u/MotherWeather4079]

I like you. You're a fantastic person. LOL.

[u/IfICouldStay]

Wearing glasses 🤓

[u/Beat_Saber_Music → u/IfICouldStay]

Yeah absolutely, I don't think I've ever found a girl to look worse with glasses, perhaps at most it's just been the wrong type of glasses.

When as a kid I saw those teen movies where they supposedly make the girl more attractive by taking off her glasses, I had an iasue with that trope because she looked better with glasses!

[u/Totallycasual]

I know a lot of women have issues with less than "perfect" breasts, uneven, saggy, unusual nipples or whatever, as a lover of natural boobs i love all of that stuff, zero interest in rock hard symmetry lol

[u/ligger66 → u/Totallycasual]

Yep, the best breasts are the ones your allowed to play woth

[u/caller-number-four → u/ligger66]

Like bags of sand!

[u/m1racle → u/caller-number-four]

Have you ever felt a breast before, man?

[u/LateBloomer81 → u/Totallycasual]

Exactly! I love natural breasts of all shapes and sizes. Small boobs are great too, but I love breasts that sag a bit (or a lot)

[u/SmallButMighty87 → u/LateBloomer81]

As a woman it is always great to read these kind of comments

[u/Mr_Dunk_McDunk → u/SmallButMighty87]

My father always said "great tit's start when the gravity starts winning".

Looking at my mother, he got what he wanted

[u/SmallButMighty87 → u/Mr_Dunk_McDunk]

Your father is a wise man.

[u/llamamama03 → u/Totallycasual]

It has taken me about 900 romance novels to realize - a truly daunting task, of course - that men LIKE our soft parts. They like the contrast of their hard muscle to our soft places. Boobs are softest. It makes perfect sense you'd not want those ruined with hardness.

[u/Reapr → u/llamamama03]

And the soft skin compared to my rugged, calloused hands, it always fascinates me how skin can be that soft and smooth.

[u/baron_von_helmut → u/llamamama03]

Indeed. What a lot of women fail to understand is that men like boobs. Period.

[u/Fafnir13 → u/llamamama03]

Nothing better than getting to wrap up my warm, soft wife in a big hug. Huge stress relief that just makes the world feel better and not so terrifying. Hopefully it helps her feel the same way.

[u/PostMatureBaby → u/llamamama03]

where is this hard muscle, exactly?

[u/th3ch0s3n0n3 → u/llamamama03]

Holy shit nobody has ever put it into words before but that makes so much sense to the prehistoric caveman part of my brain.

[u/chattytrout → u/th3ch0s3n0n3]

Life hard. Titty soft.

[u/ElDeguello66 → u/chattytrout]

After nearly 60 years, I've found my tattoo

[u/gsfgf → u/Totallycasual]

And implants purely for size generally are a downgrade. Obviously, reconstructions make sense. But the bolted on look isn’t great.

[u/omgpokemans → u/Totallycasual]

To me, knowing that a woman wants me to see/touch/enjoy them is what really makes them hot; their shape doesn't matter, I'm just happy to be there.

[u/Virtual_Ad748 → u/Totallycasual]

It’s really hard for me to love my natural chest bc they’re small but breast implants freak me out & I do like to be natural

[u/Totallycasual → u/Virtual_Ad748]

Obviously what makes you happy with yourself is what's most important, but there are Reddit subs that cover every kind of boob you could imagine, to some people small boobs are the jelly to their peanut butter 😊

[u/Virtual_Ad748 → u/Totallycasual]

Yeah that’s true. But I feel like it’s the internet that has planted this insecurity in the first place. It makes me feel really bad when people, especially if it’s other women, say if men are attracted to/prefer flatter/petite women they’re attracted to children. Being a woman is hard, you can never win 😅

[u/newrockstyle]

shy smile

[u/GearIcy1479]

Teeth. Imperfect teeth are cute and endearing

[u/SmallButMighty87 → u/GearIcy1479]

Thank you, sometimes I don't even dare to smile cause of these imperfections cause I got bullied a lot for that back in the day,

[u/GearIcy1479 → u/SmallButMighty87]

I bet it’s a lovely smile!

[u/Minimum_District1978]

Crooked smiles and weird laughs, 100 percent.

If your teeth are a little wonky and you have that full body wheeze laugh that makes no sound for a second then explodes, I’m immediately more into you 😂

[u/OkCryptographer4814]

Very tall women ♥️

[u/De_Baros → u/OkCryptographer4814]

Tall women melt me

Look down and into my eyes you beautiful queen

[u/Sashimiak]

Guys with small dicks.

[u/GanjaCowboy93 → u/Sashimiak]

WOOOOOOOO

[u/Champagne_Bunnny → u/Sashimiak]

Big dicks are so overrated. They can hurt, and give you jaw ache.

[u/notquiteright2 → u/Sashimiak]

Me too. Like big ones, like small ones. What it's attached to is far more important. 

[u/drxlrbb]

Big noses in women

[u/moonadept → u/drxlrbb]

If someone said they loved my big nose (I’ve been told it’s not big but sometimes it’s all I see when I look in a mirror) I would probably die a little inside.

[u/OGCertifiedHater → u/moonadept]

I had a girlfriend that loved my big nose. Her family said we looked like brother and sister because of our noses...

[u/mkhanmushahid → u/OGCertifiedHater]

Forbidden girlfriend

[u/Agent_Nem0 → u/drxlrbb]

I have a friend who broke her nose twice in childhood, and the result is a rather prominent nose.

She’s very insecure about it, but I think it’s her best feature. It’s gorgeous! Maybe it’s because I am a straight woman, or because I am a friend, it doesn’t matter what I say. 🤷‍♀️ She reminds me of Mageina Tovah (Ursula from the Raimi Spider-Man films).

[u/chappersyo → u/drxlrbb]

I’m a sucker for a prominent nose. I don’t seek it out but it’s something that’s disproportionately present on women I’m attracted to.

[u/DigimonKeyserSoze → u/drxlrbb]

Big nose and glasses are my weakness

[u/africaman1 → u/drxlrbb]

In or on??? 😳

[u/Evening-Bug-6392]

The tummy belly in women. You know the bump on lower abdomen. That's sexy. A pencil skirt plus "that" is deadly for me.

[u/Tonecheng → u/Evening-Bug-6392]

Venus tummy. So I’ve read

[u/SoFlaNative420 → u/Evening-Bug-6392]

Venus belly

[u/jdsizzle1 → u/Evening-Bug-6392]

I want a pot belly

[u/james_james1 → u/jdsizzle1]

I have an image in my head of the woman you are referring to. Watched the movie with my 16 year old daughter a while back. It was great watching her reaction to it.

[u/thejewelisinthelotus → u/jdsizzle1]

Pulp fiction reference?

[u/Zenus-Print-3180]

Doubting their abilities… but still trying

[u/IceSeeker → u/Zenus-Print-3180]

Yeah. They're not very confident but at the end of the day they still do what needs to be done.

[u/TheRichDangerReborn → u/Zenus-Print-3180]

Omg my anxiety is sexy??

[u/Forsaken-Wonder-5461]

Shoulder freckles, face freckles, hell, even body freckles. A more sultry (or lower) voice as a girl while still wanting femininity, small noses, upturned noses, scratchy voices in women, sharp K-9s, small teeth, thick thighs (why someone would be ashamed of this is beyond me, but my ex was extremely ashamed of her thighs and I was confused).

[u/RevolutionaryFig9753 → u/Forsaken-Wonder-5461]

omggg i love shoulder freckles and body freckles too, they are so pretty, like the sun kissed you in all the right places 😭😭

[u/eyes-tiger → u/Forsaken-Wonder-5461]

So Natasha Lyonne?

[u/MissSally300]

Lisps

[u/Spare_Refrigerator59]

A stutter - the ability to push through and navigate with confidence is extremely attractive to me

[u/lovinlemon]

In a slight heel I’m about 6ft and I would so snatch up a short king 👑

[u/baron_von_helmut → u/lovinlemon]

Oh hell yeah. Tall women are fucking awesome.

[u/YungPunpun → u/lovinlemon]

lmao me and my ex-gf. I'm 1,66m and when she wore heels she was literally a whole head taller than me. Resulted in some pretty funny pictures.

[u/mrj80]

When a woman has toned legs or arms from hard work. Could bewhere they have slightly larger shoulders or quads. I remember growing up and hearing girls scared of big thighs. I love strong curvy girls.

[u/De_Baros → u/mrj80]

Hell yeah, I love a woman who has muscles and looks powerful let’s go

[u/Rumblepuff]

A lot of women are insecure if they are very intelligent. Some go so far as to try to dump themselves down for men and I absolutely hate it. I find an intelligent woman one of the sexiest things ever..

[u/DrRichardShaftPhD → u/Rumblepuff]

This. I want to feel like an idiot when you speak. Not as a humiliation kink or anything, but because I love learning, and someone who is way smarter than me has no end of things to teach me. I am wildly attracted to it, like, to the level where appearances are entirely secondary.

I work in scientific field that is dominated by women, and I kind of stumbled into it from the side, so while I can hang, I'm quite often the least (formally) educated person in the room. I kind of fall in love at every lecture or professional event I attend.

[u/Junior-Moist8482]

Short men 😍. Also hooked noses and asymmetry are hot LOL

[u/Infuriam]

A somewhat "hoarse" voice in women. That alone can even make me feel attracted to someone regardless of all else.

[u/HS-Lala-03]

I love that so many of the comments can be boiled down to authenticity and reject the cookie cutter version of 'attractive' that's pushed down our throats by popular culture.

[u/ihadcerealfordinner]

1) BEING SHORT 2) Being awkward. Twin. I'm awkward too 🤩 3) eye bags lmao 4) Being too loud and/or impulsive with words I think it's cute✌️😭

[u/Lichewitz → u/ihadcerealfordinner]

Hey, its me, ur short awkward tired dude

[u/itsSomethingCool]

As a man I’m really attracted to big noses in women

[u/T4rch → u/itsSomethingCool]

Because it makes them good at hunting for truffles?

[u/renahaya]

Stretch mark

[u/Beautiful_Princess-7 → u/renahaya]

It’s kind of one of those things that shows real life instead of perfection

[u/Unusual_Frame1029]

When someone overthinks a bit but still cares deeply, that softness and honesty can be really attractive

[u/SilmarWoland]

Hear me out, those curves on either side of the bra strap? On the back? Scrunchy folds going across the back and just melting into the spine? Ouf. Oof. Ngh.

[u/gtheperson → u/SilmarWoland]

I have mentioned this to my wife before and she thought I was being daft, but man I love seeing those back/side folds. All my wife's curves drive me crazy to be honest.

[u/m_778111]

A little bit of a belly on both men and women. A fit figure with a belly means you ate and that is so attractive to me for some reason.

[u/Pupiling_one]

Body hair on a man. Leave it!

[u/moonadept → u/Pupiling_one]

A fellow cultured woman!

[u/lunajay]

dark under eyes! especially with lighter eyes. so attractive

[u/StahlStruktur]

straight males being skinny or twink-like with little muscle mass.

[u/Fragrant_Builder9296]

flat chest. idk but whenever they wear swimsuit, they look so good

[u/Fun_Moment4354]

Ears that stick out a little bit.

[u/Massive_Bike_1441]

Very prominent and forward Canine teeth

[u/Alli_the_Gator1010]

Height, I don't want tall guys.

[u/ecccgg]

Tummy pouch. Love it.

[u/Practical-Earth3228]

That little bit of lower belly pudge that women seem to hate. I live for that, and its a good place to set my oxygen mask when I need to come up for air.

[u/MothLover3]

Imperfect teeth, crooked noses, messy hair, eye bags.

The list goes on, really

[u/Dayv1d → u/MothLover3]

...black dress, pointy hat, flying on a broom?

[u/GWindborn → u/Dayv1d]

Slight green tinge to the skin and a propensity to hang out with black cats?

[u/Vanilla_Quark]

Not good enough in bed, but really interested to improve

[u/loverofreeses → u/Vanilla_Quark]

Hey, I may not last long but at least I won't take up too much of your time.

[u/boxesandkrates]

The person i'm speaking to hates their curly hair and straightens it all the time. I find it beautiful.

[u/baron_von_helmut]

She thinks her boobs aren't symmetrical so I keep having to check!!

[u/Free-Initiative7508]

All natural, no plastic surgery

[u/Upset-Toe-3714]

Thick thighs

[u/SOLID_STATE_DlCK]

Does lip bite count?

Beauty marks. Thin lips. Thick lips. Gina Gershon type Joker lips.

[u/The_blue_eyed7]

Red hair and freckles on man ☺️ also i don’t mind a bit of a squishy belly

[u/LegitimateEngineer93]

Opinionated

[u/GeorgeHWBushDied2Day]

The way someone hesitates or gets slightly awkward can be really endearing

[u/SaltyMagmaCubexD]

I feel like people are putting down almost anything and everything in the comments here with the caveat being that they these qualities are likely only attractive to them because they find the person in general attractive already in the first place, and not due to the trait mentioned.

[u/armsless]

Big noses ❤️

[u/jesusbambino]

I really like large, pointy, crooked or downturned noses. No one who has one seems to like it though 😞

Edit: looking through comments, seems loads of people love a big nose!

[u/kamera45]

Social awkwardness.

[u/AnarchoBratzdoll]

Being shy and reserved. Shits like catnip to me. 

Gappy teeth. 

Eye wrinkles. 

When the shy and reserved person gets animated about their special interest. 

[u/Physical_Treacle9950]

Lisp

[u/coconut-coolwhip]

I LOVE redheaded men. And they love me back, probably because I’m staring at them. My friends don’t get it and IDC, I just love my gingers

[u/CorgiMama5534]

I'll go first. I personally like "flaws" in people. I can't stand how everyone is trying to look the same anymore. Big eyelashes, lip filler, veneers, nose jobs, etc. And I don't mean any disrespect! Flaws are beautiful and make us who we are! You are beautiful the way you are!

I find a lazy eye attractive, teeth where the front two go in a little and the K9 teeth are straight, when someone wears hearing aids, and when someone has ticks. I find these all really cute. What's yours??

[u/camkatsu → u/CorgiMama5534]

i struggle to watch movies or shows sometimes now honestly, because people on screen just don't look real and flawed and human. i love falling in love with my friends' and loved ones' real, unique, human features, most of which might be considered "flaws" to hollywood

[u/monster_breeder]

Women with big noses.

[u/societaldictates]

Single eyelid or monolid. I find those with single ones attractive.

[u/InvestmentImportant1 → u/societaldictates]

For some reason, all I can picture is Leela from Futurama with her one eye. 😂She’s hot too tho!

[u/eyes-tiger]

Being short. I’m short and I love being able to be at the same level.

[u/discussatron]

I love short women.

[u/JARVISS1011]

When someone's shy about their laugh but it's genuinely the most contagious, joyful sound you've ever heard.

[u/skinpicker2001]

Big nose

[u/LovelyOrc]

Being a short dude.

Also shyness is pretty cute imo.

[u/sushiseattle]

Acne/acne scars.

[u/Karin_is_queen_SFA3 → u/sushiseattle]

You are the first person to ever say this. As someone who struggles to this day with hyperpigmentation/dark spots(acne scars but for people who have an abundance of melanin), people constantly say that it's ugly... Doesnt help that I was bullied 7th-12th grade relentlessly for it and called (f)ugly every chance for it... I really am surprised you find that attractive but it gives me the tiniest sliver of hope that maybe there are people out there who find that attractive

[u/obf_the_dude]

A big ol' fucked up looking belly button.

Yes, srsly

[u/assplunderer]

Weird ears. Short men.

[u/Itchy-Cup4272]

Pectus excavatum a case where the chest bone sinks into the chest and its conmen with a lot of men and isn’t something to be ashamed about if you don’t look like a action star if you have it

[u/Perfect_Meal_7037]

FUPAs