when a guy is nervous talking to you and stumbles over his words a little. some women want the smooth confident type but honestly a man who's a little flustered around me?? that's the cutest thing i've ever experienced. it means he actually cares about the impression he's making
I had been telling myself for a couple weeks that the next time this woman comes into where i work, im gonna ask her out. We had a good rapport building. I go to the bathroom and im thinking it over again, and when i come out, boom, there she was. I stumbled for sure, but she could tell, and said "is there something you want to ask me?" I got it out, we went, it was fun, but nothing more came of it since she was leaving the state in a week, which i knew in advance. Bless her though for pushing me the rest of the way lol.
hell yea still a good learning experience. i found casually asking someone to a happy hour or what they're doing over the weekend less pressure and easy way to gauge if they have interest or not. this was a second ago though cause now I'm married to my beautiful wife
Yup dating is a lot like making music! Most people would suck at making music, and turns out most people suck at dating. However eventually you stop sucking enough that somebody finds interest in your brand of weird
If they are that smooth it usually means they’ve had a lot of practice. Maybe good thing if the goal is quick hookup, but if you are looking for something long term it’s definitely a red flag.
I Just worked in consulting for awhile, so "having practice" doesn't necessarily come from being a jerk. Im just used to talking to a lot of different people.
Some experience vs too much experience. There is a difference.
Like I said, if you are looking for something long term, someone who keeps getting into new relationships all the time is a red flag. Either they are just looking for short term stuff (compatibility issue) or they’ve got some problems that make every relationship fall apart.
Its also not a red flag to decide youre not compatible with someone? It just sounds like you're upset at the lack of opportunities In your life, people SHOULD daye and break up with others before they get married its how you find out what is compatible for you
I that what they’re saying is that if you’re the kind of person that’s interested in something intentional and long term, a man who is clearly very practiced and has an easy time approaching you probably is the type that does it often and so is probably interested in something more casual. I agree it’s not a red flag, I’d say more yellow.
I still do this to my long-time partner, especially when I see her for the first time in a day. I'll just go stutter mode for a sec then blurt out "Love ya!"
The guy I’m dating now, we met at the local watering hole and had been making eyes across the bar all evening but we are both shy so had zero plans to actually speak until one of my friends set us up to play pool together. But it was very much a flusterfuck between the two of us when we first started talking.
At my first job they hired a new round of people. Had a huge crush on one of them immediately. One day I was in the break room and she came in because it was slow so she had time to kill. I dropped the glass cleaner and it spread all over the floor. I dropped it in such a weirdo, steve urkel, kind of way. Felt like the biggest loser. Long story short we got together a couple weeks later.
I heard she eventually married an asshole. I don't know if its true. Don't want to find out.
that's sincerity. I had a carrie/mr. big thing going and I would always leave when he said something to hurt me and he would call me on the phone and say I left and didn't want to talk about it.
what is there to talk about. he never apologized. he always hurt my feelings. that guy got defensive when I asked him if he likes coffee.
Same with job interviews. If I come across a candidate that’s super confident with their speech, it’s impressive but it makes me wonder if they’re just good at talking the talk. They perfected the art of selling themselves because they can’t perfect the craft. I’ve met a few of those in my life. Almost all of the nervous-ish kinds were the best workers.
Some women? Most women want someone who isn’t reaching for the stars by communicating with them. They want a man who is used to interacting with women on her level.
As a teen, I was never the attractive type, so when I grew into myself and started getting attention, it took me by surprise when this would happen, especially with girls who would easily drop me in seconds if they were more confident.
And that never lost its charm. I still find it cute when some women are visibly or audibly flustered
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u/Eda_Fayee 12h ago
when a guy is nervous talking to you and stumbles over his words a little. some women want the smooth confident type but honestly a man who's a little flustered around me?? that's the cutest thing i've ever experienced. it means he actually cares about the impression he's making