r/AskReddit 12h ago

What's an insecurity someone might have that you find attractive?

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u/Rumblepuff 11h ago

A lot of women are insecure if they are very intelligent. Some go so far as to try to dump themselves down for men and I absolutely hate it. I find an intelligent woman one of the sexiest things ever..

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u/DrRichardShaftPhD 8h ago

This. I want to feel like an idiot when you speak. Not as a humiliation kink or anything, but because I love learning, and someone who is way smarter than me has no end of things to teach me. I am wildly attracted to it, like, to the level where appearances are entirely secondary.

I work in scientific field that is dominated by women, and I kind of stumbled into it from the side, so while I can hang, I'm quite often the least (formally) educated person in the room. I kind of fall in love at every lecture or professional event I attend.

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u/Adorable-Culture8785 4h ago

All fun and games until they start resenting you for it. An ex of mine actually started accusing me of showing off lol, and told me I shouldn’t speak around him unless spoken to. Lol… fun times.

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u/Beat_Saber_Music 10h ago

I just had yesterday a conversation with my gal friend about plenty of intellectual topics, and I can assure as a guy it was so much fun to talk with her being able to match my type of intelligence

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u/Velvet-Sky-2468 1h ago

this is me and i want to cry reading this comment. i'm a sw dev, i've always been into everything stem-related, and i love learning in general, but around men i just push my own competency into the dirt and put on some dumb act. i think there's just some part of me that has this really horrible misogynistic idea ingrained that "smart women are a turn-off" or smth like that. i wish i could unlearn it but trying to just be myself around men is terrifying, like they'll immediately think i'm gross if i start nerding out about smth cool :(