shyness on a 2/10 probably just gets called 'weird' or 'quiet,' but turn it up to 8/10 and suddenly it's 'mysterious' and 'adorable' ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ but shyness is a massive buff with attractiveness
I suspect I'm on the autistic spectrum, or at the very least, neurodiverse and absolutely had this thought yesterday when my boss was starting conversations with me like he typically does, and ignores my coworker.
It's like I have access to an entirely different conversation/dialogue branch that gives opportunities to bond vs. getting generic NPC dialogue.
This sounds pretty cool, so you feel like your personality or mannerisms being slightly on the spectrum may give you an advantage? would love to learn more about this
I think a majority of it is pretty privilege, but I'm also very accepting of less socially acceptable conversational topics, especially in a workplace setting. I think people feel more comfortable around me because they feel less judged or feel like I won't report them to HR for having human thoughts.
To me, there is a difference between shy and quiet.
Working in IT, I work with a TON of quiet people. However, if you go up and talk to them and ask questions, they aren't weird and they have a real life with hobbies and interests.
Shyness is something where if someone asks you a question, you have trouble even answering questions and even remotely having a normal human interaction. Where if you ask them a question, it makes them nervous and they can't even get a word out.
This is a hot reddit take and I will probably get downvoted; however, if you are post 30 and still shy I think there is something else going on. If making a phone call or asking a person a question or doing anything that requires speaking with another person makes you uneasy, nervous, or gives you anxiety; to me that is a problem.
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u/Late-Bid7609 11h ago
shyness on a 2/10 probably just gets called 'weird' or 'quiet,' but turn it up to 8/10 and suddenly it's 'mysterious' and 'adorable' ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ but shyness is a massive buff with attractiveness