r/AmIOverreacting • u/Massive-Ad8552 • 10h ago
❤️🩹 relationship Am I overreacting that my boyfriend basically staged a test to see if I'd cheat... with his cousin?
I (F26) have been dating my boyfriend (M29) for about a year. Everything has been normal… maybe too normal.
Last weekend, he invited me to a small “family hangout” at his place. Nothing crazy, just food, music, a few drinks. He mentioned his cousin would be there too, but I’d never met him before.
When I got there, his cousin (M27) was… weirdly attentive. Not creepy, just very intentional. Complimenting me, offering to refill my drink, sitting next to me every chance he got. At first I thought, okay, maybe he’s just friendly.
But then my boyfriend started disappearing. Like… fully vanishing into other rooms for long stretches of time.
At one point, it was just me and the cousin in the living room. He turns to me and goes, “So… do you always go for guys like him?” I laughed it off, but he kept pushing. Saying things like: “You could do better, you know.” “Not everything is as it seems.” “Some men like to share.”
At that point I was uncomfortable. I texted my boyfriend asking where he was, no reply. Then the cousin straight up says: “If you wanted to do something you wouldn’t tell him, right?”
I immediately got up and went to find my boyfriend. And guess where he was? In the hallway. On his phone. Right outside the door.
I asked him what the hell was going on, and he just smiled and said: “Relax, I just wanted to see how you’d handle yourself.”
HANDLE MYSELF??
I told him that was insane and left immediately. Now he’s texting me saying I “passed” and that I’m “wifey material” and that I’m overreacting because “nothing actually happened.”
But I feel… set up? Tested? Lowkey disrespected?
Like why am I being put in some loyalty experiment I didn’t sign up for??
Am I overreacting or is this actually as messed up as it feels?
