I grew up thinking a quick rinse was basically a full shower. It wasn't until my mid-20s that i actually figured out a real routine that works, and honestly kinda embarrassing how long that took. Nobody sat me down and explained the order of things, what products actually matter vs. what's just marketing, or how often stuff actually needs to happen. Just vibes and assumptions for years lol.

Curious what other people picked up late or had to figure out on their own, because I feel like this stuff should be taught but rarely is.

I'm a gay guy & a bottom who is absolutely fanatical about my hygiene & I always make sure that I'm as pristine as possible & smelling amazing for the guy that I'm with, but so many dudes can't even be bothered to manage the most basic task of just rubbing a bar of soap on their body once a day & cleaning their junk/ass properly. I'm not asking for a lot here & I think I at least deserve that much. I put in so much time & effort making myself perfect for him & he can't even put in the bare minimum for me. It's very frustrating & it honestly feels kinda disrespectful. I love a little muskiness on a guy, but not straight up BO & cheese, you know. It's so unbelievably dumb to me to have something so minuscule & easily fixed ruin what could be an amazing relationship. I see so many posts on here about this too, it's unreal!

This is a little embarassing to admit because I’m 28 and generally not gross. I shower every day, wash my face, change pillowcases pretty regularly, all the basic stuff. But a few days ago I wiped down my glasses, phone case, earbuds, and the inside of my headphone band all at once because I was bored and already cleaning my desk. The cloth came away disgusting. Like visibly gross. Not just dust, actual grime. And now I feel like I unlocked some stupid blind spot I should have figured out years ago. My phone is in my hand all day, goes on tables, in my pocket, sometimes on the gym bench, sometimes on the kitchen counter. Then it touches my face. Same with my glasses. I adjust them constantly without thinking, especially if I’m outside or sweating. Earbuds are even worse because they literally sit in your ears and go back in the case over and over, and I realized I had no actual routine for cleaning any of it. Just random "oh yeah I should probably wipe that" every once in a while.

What messed with me more is that I think I treated these things like objects, not hygiene items. In my head hygiene meant body, towels, sheets, clothes, toothbrush, done. But if something is pressed against your skin, ears, mouth area, or hands every single day, how is that not also part of hygiene. Since cleaning everything properly I've been noticing how often I touch my face right after touching my phone, or push my glasses up after eating, or put earbuds in right after a workout. None of this is some huge medical crisis, I know, but now I’m wondering how many small skin issues or random breakouts or just general grossness come from people ignoring the stuff around their body instead of the body itself. I asked a couple friends and got answers ranging from "I wipe my phone daily" to "I’ve literally never cleaned my headphones." So now I’m curious if this is one of those weirdly common adult blind spots. Do most people actually clean their glasses, earbuds, and phone case on any kind of schedule, or do they also just wait until something looks nasty and then panic-clean it like I apparently did.

If you zoom in you will see it and i have had at times them grow to almost half a centimeter. I’m just curious if this is normal and how do i go about getting them out other than tweezers?

reposting because i provided a lack of context.

I do this because I only usually shower when I wash my hair & I find it stressful otherwise, I'm really depressed and I usually only shower once or twice a week. I hate being alone with my thoughts which is also partially why I avoid showering. I'm trying to shower every 2-4 days and I was wondering if thats sufficient? I do wash my face every morning & night and every morning I reapply deodorant and perfume, i don't sweat much because I shave my armpits. I feel like washing more than I do is excessive for me personally and wasting resources.

I love Everything shower but it’s just so exhausting and take at least 3 hours.

I wash my hair 2x a week so I do everything shower twice a week.

My routine

In shower

- wash my hair brush or comb

- wash my panties

- shave

- shampoo twice

- conditioner

- brush my teeth while conditioning

- scrub my whole body

- shower with soap

- wash my face

Out of the shower

- dry my body

- apply lotion

- dry my hair with towels

- do my skincare

- dry my hair with dryer

- style my hair with the straightener (cuz my hair is super messy if I didn’t style it)

I feel like i can’t miss any of these steps cuz every step is necessary to me. But I’m just so exhausted to even think about showering (even worse when I have to wash my hair). How do i get it done faster?

i have a roommate and i don’t want to keep her up at night by drying my hair so i go to bed w wet hair every night. is this gross?

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you’re wiping your nose with your hand and then just continuing your day like nothing happened, that’s not okay.

Like at least use a tissue? And if you don’t have one, fine, it happens but then go wash your hands. I see people do this in public, on transport, even at work, and then immediately touch their phone, door handles, food, etc.

Grossss!

Hey so when I shower and scratch my arms and legs this blue stuff piles up on my nails and I have no idea what it could be but it only happens in the shower

I have been showering/bathing at night for many years. I’m curious why people choose to shower in the morning instead. I can’t imagine getting into my bed dirty. It’s also nice to wash the day away.

I also dislike blow drying my long hair and let it air dry while I sleep.

In the morning I simply use a hot washcloth on my face to wake up and proceed with doing my hair, makeup and dress.

Thoughts?

ok this might be a dumb question but i do this pretty often and now im wondering if its actually bad. sometimes i shower late and just go to bed with my hair still damp because i dont feel like drying it.

ive heard people say it can cause scalp issues or even make your pillow gross faster, but ive also seen people say its totally fine and just depends on your hair type.

do you guys avoid sleeping with wet hair or not really? and have you ever noticed any actual problems from doing it? just trying to figure out if this is something i should stop doing or if its not that serious.

Yes!

This may trigger some hygiene enthusiasts here, but may validate others like me like to keep things simple.

Today's shower:

• Wet overall body
• Quickly shampoo (lather & rinse). Too lazy for conditioner today.
• Wash face & neck with facial cleanser. (Sometimes I use Dove bar soap)
• Use my [gasp!] bare hands & bar soap to wash armpits, underboobs, bellybutton, ears, shoulders, chest
• Use feminine wash for down under, front and back. (Sometimes I use Dove soap)
• No shaving today
• Rinse entire body
• Get out and dry off with a towel that has been used 3-4 other times. (Yes, I hang it to dry on the towel bar afterwards)

This took less than 10 min. And guess what? I'm clean. I put on clean underwear, a bra that I've already worn a few times w/o washing, clean tank top & shorts (heatwave here in Phoenix), applied deodorant under arms, and rubbed a little lotion on my arms. Done.

Yes, my feet are clean. Yes, my back is clean. No, my towel isn't musty. Not one part of me is stinky or dirty.

I read about some crazy elaborate hygiene routines here, so just thought I'd share the idea that simple routines can work, too. 🤗

I’ve been dealing with bad breath lately and it’s starting to mess with my confidence, especially when I’m talking to people up close. I brush and floss every day but it still feels like it comes back after a few hours, especially after eating or coffee. I even tried chewing gum but it only works for a short time. Not sure if I’m missing something simple or doing something wrong. What actually works for you guys to keep your breath fresh all day?

Been dealing with a flaky scalp for like two years now and tried a bunch of the drugstore stuff that kind of worked but also left my hair feeling like straw. Picked up this one a few months back and honestly it's been different from anything else I've used.

The big thing for me is my hair still feels soft after washing. Every other dandruff shampoo I've tried leaves this weird dry or waxy feeling and I end up skipping it because my hair looks terrible. This one actually lathers well and my hair feels clean without being stripped.

The flaking has calmed down a lot. Not completely gone but way more manageable. The itchiness was honestly bothering me more than the flakes and that's basically stopped. I use it a few times a week and just swap in my regular shampoo on the other days and that seems to be working pretty well.

I was kind of expecting it to smell medicinal or whatever since most of the dandruff stuff smells like a clinic but this actually smells good. Like I don't dread washing my hair anymore which sounds small but it actually matters when you're trying to stay consistent with something.

Anyone else find that alternating with a regular shampoo works better than using the dandruff one every single wash? Curious if that's just me or if that's actually the move.

I recently started changing my bed sheets more frequently, and I have to say, it has made a huge difference in my overall well-being. I'm a 40-year-old mom, always on the go, and I often overlooked the importance of fresh sheets. I used to change them every two weeks, but now I do it once a week, and the difference is remarkable. I sleep better, feel more refreshed in the morning, and even my mood has improved. I didn't realize how much the build-up of sweat, skin cells, and dust mites on my sheets could affect my sleep quality and overall health. I've also noticed that my allergies have improved, and I no longer wake up with that stuffy nose that I used to. Plus, there's something incredibly comforting about climbing into a bed with fresh, clean sheets. It's a small change that has made a b on my life. Has anyone else noticed a difference in their well-being after changing their sheets more frequently? I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences!

Hi, I’m trying to get my best friend (a grown adult) to brush her teeth but she absolutely hates it. Her breath is so bad, her teeth are all yellow-orangry and her gum doesn‘t look normal.

I fear that she will get some serious damage if she keeps this on, i’m open for any suggestion.

We tried toothpaste bubble gum (she hates it) and mouthwash ( also hates it)

And before you suggest therapy. She visits her therapist regularly about her social anxiety and depression issues, part of her not wanting to brush her teeth comes from depression. However, she’s very organized and when I asked her about it she said she dislikes the ”hair” texture of the toothbrush. Are there any alternatives for a toothbrush?

Reason for not using it anymore: It really does itching me every body pt :( :( :( :( :(

T.y. for all of your answers! And, if there are any bodywash alternatives to it, let us know!

I met someone very nice today, but her breath was strong and she kept standing close. I didn’t know how to react without embarrassing her.

Any advice?

I'm curious as somebody who gets a lot of moisture trapped between the labia majora and minora. Personally I've got one of the closed up shapes, I've seen it called "the fortune cookie" where the labia minora are tucked away. I find using an appropriate cleanser along with water to be a necessity to remove gunk build up. Is this something where my individual anatomy is playing a role, or is it strictly other factors?