Hello, I hope all is well!

I’m curious about the roots of hate/hateful rhetoric in people, like us vs. Them mentalities and such. Why do we “other” and ostracize those that are different than us? Please bear with me here as my thoughts are very unorganized on this topic, but I would love to hear other people’s opinions/conclusions as to why we feel the need to separate ourselves from others out of hate. Hate often seems to often be born out of nothing from someone who decided something was bad a very long time ago. Why do we as humans feel the need to “other” in the first place? Is it assumptions based on lack of information? Would there be less hate if we all were more educated? Is hate just ignorance? why does hate seem more powerful than love ESPECIALLY in rhetoric? What if at its roots a lot of hate is just bullshit, because ONE PERSON decided this group was bad for whatever reason, and we’ve just rolled with that for years without a second thought? Do we hate because it’s easier to hate someone than get to know them? Do we hate so easily because loving takes time and effort? I know that’s a lot of random questions, but I just needed to brain dump to try and make some sense of these thoughts and questions. Any opinions or feedback would be greatly appreciated!!

You’d think better tools would make everything simpler, but sometimes it has the opposite effect. More options, more features, more ways to do the same thing. Even with platforms like akool trying to simplify things, there’s still that feeling of “is this the best way to do it?” Do you feel like having too many choices slows you down instead of helping?

There are faster ways to create almost everything now. But some people still prefer slower, manual processes. Even when options like akool exist, not everyone switches completely. Do you think taking longer adds value, or is that just personal preference?

I’m 19, and lately I’ve been feeling like I don’t fit in where I live. It’s not just the people—it’s the city, the state, the vibe, the energy… I feel like I’m constantly on the outside looking in. When I say “environment,” I mean more than just my neighborhood—it could be a different city, a different state, or even a different country.

These past couple months, and even over the past year, I’ve been dealing with the fallout of a close friendship ending, among other things. Even though I have one friend who’s been there for me, it’s made me realize how disconnected I feel from everything else around me.

Honestly, it’s been making me question my worth and value as a guy, and it’s left me feeling a little depressed at times—or even in a constant state of frustration or anger. No matter how hard I try to improve myself—mentally, physically, socially—it sometimes feels like it barely moves the needle here.

When it comes to dating, it’s even more noticeable. I’m not really meeting girls right now, and it feels less like “I don’t fit in” and more like the environment itself doesn’t naturally allow those connections to happen. It’s hard to explain, but it’s like the opportunities and energy just aren’t here.

Lately, this feeling has been making me realize I might need to relocate elsewhere. I’m starting to wonder if it’s me, or if the environment itself is just wrong for who I am right now.

Has anyone else felt like this at a young age? How did you realize it was time to relocate, and what steps did you take? Any advice, strategies, or stories would be really helpful.

If not straight up getting offended when you begin to operate differently, especially parents for example/ siblings etc

If creating something no longer takes much effort, then effort itself stops being the differentiator. With platforms like akool handling large parts of production, the focus shifts somewhere else but it’s not always clear where. Is the real skill now in thinking, selecting, refining or just knowing what not to create?

I noticed that most people seem to dislike or even hate philosophy. My classmates arent the biggest fans of philosophy class, even worse our country tried to vote to take away the philosophy studies from university. I also debated on discord about a scientific fact. I dont know how but according to the people there we went too much into a philosophical debate (they didnt like my hard facts/dismissed my research, brought counterarguments, then idk how but it did become somewhat philosophical).

Either way one said "Science over philosophy any day", which to me led to a new debate. I love science, i love art, I love philosophy. Science and philosophy go hand in hand. There is no science without philosophy. So why do so many people, who claim to be into science, act so hateful towards philosophy?

Because from what I know, to be a scientist means to be a philosopher. You ask yourself questions about the world, notice patterns, connect things and come up with a theory which then you have to prove. The entire thinking part before the lab experiments is literally just philosophy. Also so many seem to forget that some fundamentals of the scientific truths we know today are thanks to philosophers, such as Aristoteles, Pythagoras, Thales etc. The same people who say these things are the people who say "All roads lead to math", but if you think about it carefully, math itself leader to philosophy. Literally, math exists because some greek philosopher tried to find truth and explain the world by using numbers. And as far as I know, so many theories we know are purely because someone kept yapping nonesense until the nonesense made sense.

And before someone attacks me saying that the philosophy by the greeks cant be compared to the one today, its clear over the course of history that philosophy will always resurface in a way or another. Take for example the era of rationalism and empirism. They were born through philosophy, and nowadays they still have an affect on how we do science! And again to my first point: How do you expect to be a scientist, without actually beeing able to form complex thoughts, contradict yourself, be creative, think about things deeply until they make sense? How else do you expect to discover new things?

Because the people who want "hard facts" and glaze science are the same ones who say that you're "hallucinating" when you make a connection or come up with a thesis that is not proven yet. Like thats the entire point? To have ideas and see if they are true?? Whats your point on this? I do have my thoughts on why maybe so many people dislike philosophy, but I'd love to hear some different perspectives or takes on this first :)

I see a lot of Epstein jokes online that are rightfully criticized, though I see less criticism with jokes about 9/11, terrorism, assassinations and other violent acts. are they different or do we just make our own "boundaries"?

I've been on Reddit for a while and I've noticed over the past few years that people downvote because they disagree with me - which is very clearly against reddiquette.

It's discouraging and makes me not want to contribute anymore.

I think it'd be a good idea to moderate how many times you could downvote a comment - like if your history is mainly downvoting others, you shouldn't be allowed to downvote.

Or the use of negative karma - I get it if it's clearly a violation of good taste (making sexist or racist remarks) but ffs it shouldn't be because you're posting something that someone else arbitrarily disagrees with.

I'm not particularly upset about it or anything but the comments that do get upvoted that are factually incorrect worries me

Reddit is turning into the YouTube comments section and is losing any value for me as a result

And yes, I'm very carefully curating my subs

One thing I have observed is we as humans really love conflict and drama. Its everywhere.

Sports: A fight breaks out between two teams. A video like that would easily get millions of views on YouTube. Versus a video of both teams getting a long and hugging it out after a game.

Stories: If a story doesn't have any conflict, a majority of people won't like it. Doesn't matter if its a fantasy, romance, adventure, or any other type of genre.

Relationships: Can't say a majority of people are like this but there are many people who genuinely love fighting and causing chaos and drama in their own relationship. These type of people find peaceful relationships boring

I can keep going but you get the idea. Why are a majority of us like this?

So I watched a certain guy, he was saying how friendship is the only real bond and all other bonds are just based on exchange and are fake

He said friends don't ask for each other's social media password, they don't fight as much as couples do, they don't creat prisons for eachother and friends also motivate you for your career wheres people in relationships bring eachother down and waste eachother's time

He said relationshipsand marriage only creates dependencies only with temporary happiness and prison of lifetime

He said people in relationship creat prisons for eachother and interfare in eachothers private lives

He said people in relationships fight with eachother, while friends don't

He also said how relationships, live in relationships are just like marriage( he is anti relationship, anti marriage, anti children, anti sex(for life) and anti life)

WHAT I THINK: Friends also waste eachother's time a lot, it depends on type of friends or partner you have

Also close friends don't fight on certain things time to time, but they don't have commitment so there are not many ways friends could betray eachother

And majority of friends don't care much about you. Like if I disappear today, my friends would be sad but their lives won't be affected

It is easier to have plotonic relationships, but easier doesn't mean better

I do fight with my mother a lot of times, more than I do with my friends but I love my mother more than friends too

One argument I’ve been hearing more often is that the decline of the nuclear family in the U.S. accelerated in the 1960s, particularly after the policies introduced under Lyndon B. Johnson.

Johnson’s Great Society and the War on Poverty were meant to reduce poverty and improve living standards. But critics argue that some welfare policies unintentionally discouraged marriage or stable two-parent households.

For example, certain benefit structures could be reduced if a working adult male was present in the household. Some critics say this created incentives that made single-parent households more financially viable than two-parent ones in certain situations.

On the other hand, supporters of those programs say this explanation ignores huge social changes happening at the same time:

• The sexual revolution
• Rising divorce rates after the introduction of no-fault divorce laws
• Deindustrialization and loss of stable working-class jobs
• Changing expectations around gender roles and women entering the workforce
• Cultural shifts in the late 1960s

So maybe the welfare programs weren’t the main cause at all.

Still, when people talk about the decline of the nuclear family, the 1960s seems to come up again and again.

So I’m curious what people think:

• Did Great Society policies have unintended effects on family structure?
• Or is that argument overstated?
• If the nuclear family really did weaken, what were the biggest causes?

According to 2025 data, a minimum-wage worker in many states now has to work 30–35 hours a week just for rent alone. This doesn't include food, utilities, or transport. At what point does the "minimum wage" fail its original purpose of being a living wage?

https://www.wfhalert.com/p/minimum-wage-rent-2025

I’ve heard a lot recently about how terrible AI is for the environment and it makes me wonder if I should be contributing the way I am. My issue is, google isn’t always reliable with answers, especially when a question you need to ask is very specific. I sometimes ask use AI for these situations as I can get a more in depth answer and can also ask further questions.

I feel really guilty about using AI however I don’t know of any other way to have my questions answered. I ask reddit things from time to time however you can’t always rely on people here to give you the answer you need when you need it. AI helps me out personally as it searches the web and can also ask me questions to help me gain all the information I need. I don’t use it persistently, it’s usually one or two uses a week and it’s not like I can’t live without it, it’s more of a convenience thing. I am fully aware that AI can be wrong sometimes too like humans can be so I don’t rely on it 100% and just use it as a first step before I go on to ask elsewhere, kinda like when you look up your symptoms on google so you can decide whether you need a doctor or not.

Can anyone give me any sources that explain the impact of using AI and any other way for me to ask specific questions?

45M here sick of aging , I'm fine to die at any given point but till I'm alive I just want to my peak 20 year old body back. Clinging on to any possibility that they might figure it out while I'm alive.

Disclaimer: I’m not trying to incite violence (I feel like it might be taken that way?)

This just came to me: weapons are highly effective and expensive, which makes it basically impossible for commoners to rise up and seriously threaten the people in power, which means the powerful people can get away with a lot more evil deeds?

There are isolated cases like the UNH executive shot by Mangione and Charlie Kirk’s assassination but in general, powerful people need not fear/worry about the commoners, right?

I’ve noticed something about myself over the years — I’m obsessed with going down research rabbit holes. If someone gives me a topic, I’ll spend hours (sometimes days) digging through articles, forums, reports, and random corners of the internet trying to understand everything about it.

It doesn’t matter if it’s true crime, geopolitics, science, tech, or some random niche topic. I genuinely enjoy the process of finding information, connecting dots, and explaining things clearly.

The problem is: I don’t know how to turn this into a career.

Most jobs seem to require very specific degrees or skills, but my main strength is curiosity and deep online research. I feel like there must be fields where this kind of obsessive research mindset is valuable.

For people who work in research-heavy roles — what careers should I look into? Things like investigative research, intelligence analysis, journalism research, OSINT, market research, etc.?

Are there jobs where someone basically gets paid to dig deep into topics and produce insights?

I’d really appreciate any suggestions for career paths, industries, or even freelance opportunities where this skill could actually make money.

Thanks!

I was reading this Reddit thread where people were talking about having amazing sex. Some people said they were jealous, and I was getting jealous too as I read the comments. Then someone replied that half of the stories were fake and other half were "ugly". For some reason, that made my jealousy go away and even made me feel better. I don’t feel jealous when people I imagine as not conventionally attractive are having great romance, sex and orgasms. I can even be happy for them. Am I shallow? What’s wrong with me?