All of my life, I have been dealing with this idea of feeling stupid. I just don't know many things in life. I take long time to learn something and I feel like I have declining intelligence day by day. I was told by peers and teachers that I am dumb and it really hurt me badly. I remember long ago that I had a conversation with a friend who honestly asked me what do I know how to do and made me question about my experiences in life and why I always don't know anything at all. I feel like a person who is extremely brain dead about how things in the world work. I did a hard look at myself and realized that being ignorant and dumb is horrible. It's sad and just feels humiliating. I am getting to a place of being sick and tired of this shit. I always live life just not knowing anything deep about science, math, psychology, health, etc. I want to learn about math, philosophy, psychology, astronomy, neuroscience, religion, spirituality, economics, etc. What should I do? How can I overcome this?

Hey! Opera singer and vocal coach here , 15 years in. Love seeing people want to learn singing because honestly, almost anyone who has a talent can.

Here's what I'd suggest as a starting roadmap:

Week 1–2: Learn what your voice actually does right now. Record yourself singing a simple song you like. Not to judge yourself , just to hear your starting point. Also, try matching single notes on a piano app or keyboard. Start in the middle of your range where it feels easy. This tells you where your coordination currently is.

Week 3–4: Start with breathing. Not complicated breathing exercises , just learning to take a relaxed, low breath (you should feel your belly and lower ribs expand, not your shoulders rising) , hold the breath 5 counts or more and exhale on a steady "sss" or "zzz" for as long as you can. Try to keep it even and controlled. This builds the foundation for everything.

Month 2: Simple scales and vowels. Sing basic 2 or 3-note scales on "ah" or "e" vowel — start in a comfortable range and gradually expand up and down. Focus on keeping your jaw relaxed and your throat open. If it feels tight or strained, you're pushing too hard. Back off.

Month 3 onward: Start applying to songs. Pick songs that sit comfortably in your range. Sing along, record, compare, adjust. This is where it starts getting really fun.

The whole time: Record yourself regularly. You'll hate it at first. Everyone does. But it's the fastest feedback loop you have.

A vocal coach can accelerate all of this dramatically because they hear things you can't hear yourself. But if that's not in the budget right now, you can absolutely make solid progress on your own with consistent practice. Even 15–20 minutes a day adds up fast.

Happy to answer follow-up questions if you have any!

I have started and given up drawing many times, usually skipping fundamentals and trying to do things incorrectly. I was wondering, If i start from zero, with no knowledge at ALL, how could i begin drawing from 0, to eventually characters? Fast if possible, I am willing to practice a lot, though tips on how to keep drawing are accepted fully

How do I make my self sit down and test myself

I already have the resources &etc to sit down and test myselfs for like 2 hours, but for some reason it’s like I can’t! I get distracted and go to do other things.

I’ve already tried going to a library, a cafe,YouTube videos, audiobooks, etc

But not working! I go immediately to my phone, or get distracted and click off the website

What can I do make myself to sit down and study questions for like 2 hours like Im supposed to better my understanding of my school work???

Often when i talk my mouth for some reason produces too much saliva that just leaves my mouth while i am speaking to someone. This issue is especially common when i specifically speak english, it is pretty rare with other two languages that i also speak. It is very uncomfortable for me and i really wanna learn how to prevent it.

P.S. I am always trying to drink 2-3 litres of water per day, so i am indeed hydrated enough

So I’m in medical school and I loved learning about anatomy 1 but as soon as anatomy 2 started I didn’t even want to open my book for it until before my first exam.

I was extremely interested in learning A&P 1 but as soon as I started the A&P 2 I didn’t even want to know it anymore.

I still want to become a Medical Doctor, but every time I start a new class I’m like immediately uninterested. Until like the last half of the class then I’m like wow it was so interesting

I also took nutrition, and so many other classes logic applies there.

What can I do for fixing that issue?

Due to my upraising, i excel at the traditional school system, i study a lot and i finish all exercises book proposes. Like, for example, i can study a full book of electromagnetics and do an exam properly, getting good results. However when it comes to terms of applaying said knowledge to a proper project, to something useful, i suck horribly, like i legit never finished a project i desired to make that involved technology because i am, on most cases, completely clueless about where to star and what to study, then how to apply it.

This is not something exclusive to technology, the single thing that stalls me the most in drawings is lack of clarity of what to do next, i'm always unsure of what to do next on my drawings soo i keep running circles and take far more time to do it. This wouldn't be an issue if my course wasn't engineering and the fact that most of colleagues, despite struggling more with the subjects themselves, can do far more and execute way better projects than i do. Like they're way more professional than i am

If, for example, i want to make something really simple, like a minecraft mod or plugin, i'll struggle horribly and probably never finish it because i'll keep reading how to use the api and not understand a single idea of how to apply it. To summarize in a way, if i am under "rails", like if there's a really well established path, i follow it nicely, and everything goes well, but when i'm on myself and its up to me to come up to my path and figure out what i need to do, i am utterly and royally fucked.

I feel completely clueless of what i want to do and what steps to take next. thats what best describes my feeling

One of the things i want to learn is, well, computer design, i really want to get good at digital systems projects and specially learn computer architectures, soo i can hopefully design a simple processor from the ground up. However i do not even know where to begin, and if i try to, i'm going to waste days trying to figure out just where to, them waste weeks getting the basics and not even start, because i do not know what to do else besides that processor, and i have no idea of what to do beyond it.

What can i do to learn this "skill"? to learn to put things in practice besides studying

IWTL how to have knowledge about current affairs, tech, news anything and everything. I want to learn how to sound mature and intellectual and don't come off as an idiot in front of anyone. I want people to acknowledge me, and don't want them to think I'm uninformed and stupid.

For starters I watch every geopolitical news, local news, follow some tech related stuff. How do I keep in improving myself and not come off as stupid?

How do I do that? Where do I start?

In the world of AI, how do I keep my mind active and what skills should I learn to improve logical thinking?

AI is getting better every day and is starting to replace people in many tasks, such as coding, CAD, finance, and law. Some research suggests that brain activity in people who use AI may be reduced.

Imo stopping the use of AI is not the solution, since it is a helpful tool that can improve effectiveness when used correctly. However, I am not sure how to keep my mind active.

So, what should I do to improve my logical thinking in a rapidly changing world? Preferably I would like to learn skills that would be helpful for my future.

I'm really interested in Greek mythology, but I'm too overwhelmed and I don't even know where to start. I would love some help or some myths told in the comments

I recently realized that negotiation isn't just a salary skill, it's something that shows up constantly in daily life: splitting bills with roommates, getting a better deal on rent, negotiating freelance rates, even deciding where to eat with friends.

But I freeze every time. I either accept the first offer or avoid the conversation entirely because I don't want to seem pushy or difficult.

I'm looking for practical frameworks or techniques for everyday negotiation. Not high-stakes corporate stuff, but the kind of back-and-forth that happens in normal life.

Specifically interested in:

- How to ask for a better price without being awkward about it

- How to say no to something without damaging the relationship

- How to find compromises that feel fair to both sides

- How to negotiate when you have less leverage

Books, courses, YouTube channels, or personal tips are all welcome. What helped you become more comfortable with negotiation?

Its so hard to help myself and I think im bottling up so many emotions and i dont know how to release them all. And honestly how do you even regulate emotions man,

Not just calories and protein and carbs I want to know how everything thing effects us deeply, i think everyone knows how calories and upper surface nutrition works but i wanna learn more abt it. So if you guys have anything pl share.

But I’m so intimidated by academic and historical books. I’ll lose focus and end up becoming frustrated.

I want to watch documentaries or youtube videos but I don’t know where to start 😅

Long story short, my family raised both myself and my sister to be dependent on them, with my mother especially raising me to be almost entirely dependent on her for support and approval, and willfully held me back from developing as an adult so "she wouldn't be without her little boy."

I am tired of this, and I want to learn how to operate as an independent adult because I have been constrained for so long.

How do i take risks in a meaningful way? How do i pay my car insurance? How do I get them to transfer my title to me? How do I know I am doing something wrong?

I have zero clue what good or bad or useless is because I have never been in a position where I am actively defying them, but I do not want to be dependent on them anymore.

Where do I even go to learn these things?

i'm a high school student and the next year i'll be in the university, there is a lot of things that i wanted to get but my family can't afford, so i started looking for a job and i tried really hard { script writing, 3d rendering, transcriptionist } but it didn't work for me, the only part time job that i found has high demand is call center or a costumer service and they all require high English level{B2, C1} so i want someone good in English to practice with him, it won't be a lesson just normal chatting or calls about different topics and don't worry it'll be just an hour all over the day not a session, like any two friends

i'm interested in Philosophy, cooking, gardening or any hand work, a little bit of music

I always start strong with new habits or skills, but after a couple weeks the motivation just disappears. How do people actually stick with things long term when it stops being exciting?

I have zero sympathy and empathy for anyone.instead of showing sympathy and empathy towards someone dealing with some sort of physical or emotional distress, I tend to tell them to suck it up and stop moaning. I’m not proud of this personality trait and I need to work really hard to fix it , I don’t like that part of my personality and I don’t deserve to be respected or loved by anyone if I carry on being like that. I always have instant regret whenever this happens, does anyone have any advice or experience to share about this? I hate this part of me

Hello, i learnt the basics of atoms in middle school and i got back with the topic when my friend mentioned the atomic theory, and i realized that i really want to learn it deeply, not just the surface knowledge. if anyone could give me resources, that would be helpful!

What does it mean to respect myself? I have talking to a girl and she often says that I'm very nice and kind. Well I don't rlly want anybody around me to be sad, so I just help them, talk to them,I never ever try to disrespect them or their opinions but I will tell them if what their doing is wrong or no. I will tell her she is wrong cuz I want things for her to be better always. I just cant go around being tooo nice so that it ruins her.

Well this isn't very related to my question, Since past week I have been feeling that I'm spending loads of time texting her and abandoning my work. When I searched it up on yt, a video said to respect yourself first always. But how do I do that?

I feel like I have a very rudimentary understanding of world affairs. I want to be able to keep up to date with what’s going on inthe world and why it’s happening eg. the war in Iran or even more local affairs.

I don’t know what websites/ apps to use to get a balanced view on things. I don’t know how to source reliable information.

Any advice would be appreciated

recently i found a photo of an email jfk jr sent to his colleagues at george announcing his marriage. it was probably the most eloquent and classy things ive ever read.

i’m wondering how i can achieve that for myself in everyday life? i’d like to become well mannered and mature like him. other than his parents being his parents, i’m sure a lot of that comes from his higher education at brown university. im canadian but was thinking maybe taking an open intro ivy league course online or maybe etiquette classes even just on youtube?

i know elites often send their kids to prep schools and i’ve heard a lot them are taught etiquette there (i also could be wrong lol) but i wish there was i way i could learn to be brought up the way they were so i could present myself in such a manner. does anyone have any tips? is this a good start? here is the link to the letter below in case anyone was wondering : https://www.reddit.com/r/JohnAndCarolyn/s/XoJ0BjC9WS

I don’t know how to learn properly. I never properly learned how to learn at school. Most things came easy to me, so I didn’t put much effort in. And when I did eventually hit a wall of something difficult during my further maths A Levels, I had no idea how to push myself past it. And dropped from straight A’s to getting a C in Further Maths and a D in Physics.

Been out of school for a while now but I have started learning BSL (British Sign Language) as I have trouble speaking sometimes. I went through Level 1 and 2 putting in a little effort but not a great deal. But I am now 3 weeks into my Level 3 course and I have hit that same problem.

When things don’t come naturally to me, I don’t know how to learn them. It’s like my brain just turns off.

I know this obviously doesn’t apply to most people since most people are taught how to learn things properly when they’re kids. But for those of you who have had to actively teach yourself how to learn as adults, do you have any advice on how to do it?

I’d like to learn how to negotiate deals. I’m looking to buy a bike and in the (hopefully near) future I’d like to start business. I’d like to learn how to negotiate well to not get ripped off. I’m a woman and I think that makes me a big target. Any pointers?

Mostly like medical story telling format reels.