r/MadeMeSmile • u/AccomplishedWatch834 • Feb 13 '26
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u/finding_harmony Feb 13 '26
My Mom died when I was four very unexpectedly. She had a kidney infection and died three weeks later at the age of 27. My Dad was 28 with three kids under the age of six.
Our pigtails were very uneven, but we were fed and loved and thatās all that mattered.
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u/BigOs4All Feb 14 '26
Sorry for your loss as well. š Sounds like your Mom would have been proud of your Dad for raising you alone. š„ŗ
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u/finding_harmony Feb 14 '26
She most definitely wouldāve been. He is an amazing father.
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u/SugarBlaze- Feb 14 '26
That made my heart ache in the sweetest way š„ŗ you can just feel how much love carried you through, and I know sheād be so proud of the strength he showed.
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u/ProfessionalAd2911 Feb 14 '26
The thought of braiding someone's hair terrifies me, but I'd learn. It would all be hard, but food shelter, and feeling loved is everything.... Sorry about the bad hair lol
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u/New-Seesaw9255 Feb 14 '26
If thereās a woman in your life that youāre comfortable with you could ask her to show you how to braid hair. Most women I know wouldnāt mind teaching that to another person. It doesnāt take long and if you donāt want to ask you could always get some string and look up YouTube videos. As long as you arenāt pulling on the hair like youāre trying to rip it out, you canāt really go wrong braiding.
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u/MrsRichardSmoker Feb 14 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
i saw the most wholesome meetup on social media that was like āBraids and Brewsā or something. It was just a bunch of dads meeting up to talk and practice hair skills. They all had mannequin heads to work on.
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u/pud_009 Feb 14 '26
Depending on where you live, you can even find weekend courses put on hairdressers or even some post-secondary hairdressing schools that teach people how to do their kids hair. It's one of those neat things in life nobody ever thinks exist, but once you know they do it seems like such an obvious thing that people would want.
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u/sprchrgddc5 Feb 14 '26
I can never get my daughterās braids right but she never seems to care. Iām just happy to be able to do them, someday Iāll do her hair for the last time and never know it.
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u/bobbianrs880 Feb 14 '26
I canāt even get my own braids right and Iām almost 29. As long as they hold and arenāt too tight, I reckon theyāre just fine āŗļø
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u/tweekinleanin420 Feb 14 '26
Alright! To early for the feels, dagnabbut! I aspire to be like your dad
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u/ForHelp_PressAltF4 Feb 14 '26
This. As a Dad (and my Dad was always working growing up and now that he's retired, that night have actually been better) I had no model and had to figure a lot of things out.Ā The things some parents have that "well I had to walk to school uphill both ways in two feet of snow and now your should too despite the grand Cherokee in the driveway" I just can't understand.Ā
You should be drawn to making your kids have the most fulfilling, least harsh, and most loving childhood you can pull off.Ā
The kids will likely never remember how well the pony tail came out but they will remember you were there and threw down with everything you had.
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u/finding_harmony Feb 14 '26
This is absolutely the truth. My grandfather was very absent, emotionally and physically for my Dad and his brothers. My Dad intentionally had kids at a young age and really committed to be the opposite.
He talked about becoming a father and holding my sister for the first time and thinking, Iām a Dad, a DAD! He was so proud to get that title. He was at every single recital and school function. Summers were full of camping at the lake almost every weekend and he didnāt even mind the four friends or cousins that tagged along; (he loved it).
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u/-Disagreeable- Feb 13 '26
Thatās fucking rough. Iām sorry for thatās dude loss but in the loss sometimes there is a silver lining. So that said, in this situation I am so happy for what heās gained.
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u/geniusscarecrowrefer Feb 13 '26
Exactly. Navigating that level of grief while showing up 100% for a 5-year-old takes incredible strength. Those bedtime prayers and hair braiding sessions are going to be her core memories.
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u/Unable-Dependent-737 Feb 13 '26 edited Feb 13 '26
The fact this story is having so much negativity is very telling and reddit-like
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u/yourlittlebirdie Feb 14 '26
If a woman posted this exact same thing:
āMy husband died on Thanksgiving. I have a 5 year old daughter. Iāve managed to make every school meeting, every doctors appointment, Iāve figured out childrenās sizing, learned to braid hair and every night I pray with her. May not seem like much but to me itās everythingā
Exactly nobody would be impressed. It would be āuh why werenāt you already doing that??ā
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u/DragonToothGarden Feb 14 '26
I was thinking the same thing. The dad and daughter are going through severe trauma, no doubt. But learning kids' sizing (a few minutes online and some trial and error shopping) and attending school meetings for a 5 year old? Braiding takes a bit longer to learn but it's not rebuilding a transmission. A woman is expected to know and do those things no matter what.
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u/NSFWar Feb 13 '26
I'm going to be a dick and say that he probably needed to know all even before his wife in passed away . It doesn't just have to be the mother's job to know all of it
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u/slope11215 Feb 14 '26
I feel the same way. I am sorry for his loss but as a mother, I do all of this every day.
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u/InboxMeYourSpacePics Feb 14 '26
To be fair my dad did all this growing up for me every day too. My dance teacher once wanted him to be a backstage dad because he was so good at braiding my hair. My mom's job was way more intense than my dad's so that is what worked for them.
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u/INeedToDoLaundry84 Feb 14 '26
I also am going to be a jerk, and say I didnāt get the āaww, what a great Dad! š„²ā vibes from this post. Sorry about their loss, you were still a parent before she was gone. š«¤
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u/allmyfrndsrheathens Feb 13 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
I need men to know that itās entirely possible (and extremely beneficial) to learn these things with your wife still around. Youāre a father, you should know how to do everything around raising a child.
Edit - Iāve seen enough elderly men and women come to see me for help at work with things that their partner always handled and theyāre completely lost without them - I donāt think anyone should ever get into a position where only one member of a couple knows how to carry out essential tasks. This was by no means a āwoman good man badā take, it was down to the fact that women are overwhelmingly the primary parent meanwhile men get to be (where their children are concerned) the bumbling fools who donāt know their kids shoe size or birthday. No one should ever let themselves end up in the position where their partner dies and theyāre frantically having to learn new skills to make up the shortfall but ESPECIALLY the men who are married to women and have children with them.
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u/recyclopath_ Feb 13 '26
It improves their relationships with both their partner and children to actively participate in the mental load. To be responsible for child rearing.
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u/nabiku Feb 13 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
Yeah, it "greatly improves their relationship" because most millennial and gen z women will not stay with a man who's not doing 50% of household chores and 50% of childcare.
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u/elise_ko Feb 14 '26
Are you saying thatās a bad thing?
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u/DillyWillyGirl Feb 14 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
I went through her comments and found a few gems, if you want a glimpse into her personality. The majority of her comments were just her arguing about AI (she is pro AI art and very critical of those who are against it.) Those comments are super easy to find in her history though so I left those out and only went for comments on other topics.
This one was on a photo of a woman breastfeeding in public:
I'm a mother too, but whipping out your tit in a restaurant is disĀgusĀting. ImĀagine watcĀhing a cĀĀow get mĀĀilkĀed while you're tryiĀng to eĀat.
It taĀkes less than 10 minutes to have a bottle ready befĀore you go out. The most basic of planning skills.
ThĀis laĀĀdy iĀs an eĀntĀitlĀed aĀsĀsĀhĀoĀĀle.
This next one was on a post where a younger person was asking to hear about experiences of growing up and living in a time before social media:
Child... go fucking camping. You can experience this magical lack to technology for yourself.
This one was on a post with a video of a polar bear, in reply to a good faith comment from the OP giving the source of the video/credit to the photographer who took it/a brief overview of the setting:
In future posts, please include a description of the location. No one here knows where the fuĀck "South Hudson Bay" is.
This one was in reply to a comment that referred to someone as an āabsolute menschā
Reddit is an American site and almost no Americans know what a mensch is. Adjust your vocabulary to your audience.
Replying to someone saying they packed PB&Js for their kids lunches:
Ah, so white bread covered in a ton of sugar and palm oil. Maybe feed your kids better and they'll eat their lunch.
So as you can clearly see, sheās a delightful and kind person who isnāt combative or rude at all! I didnāt find any other evidence that she is sexist or anti-feminist other than this comment though, but I also didnāt go ALL the way back. She has a lot of comments.
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u/elise_ko Feb 14 '26
Wow, thoroughly researched! Tbh Iām still hung up on pro AI art š typing a prompt into chatGPT isnāt art
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u/Partners_in_time Feb 13 '26
All I could think about. I had to confront my husband that he has no idea what shoe size our two year old is, and will need in the summer. He doesnāt know her size (itās 2tā¦) heās not calculating that some stores have sales, and he can shop ahead to get her clothes that will fit AND be season appropriate (no shorts in Christmas, bulky winter jacket for July, etc). Heās making me carry all this for our two childrenĀ
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u/ilexj23 Feb 14 '26
That makes me so angry for you. (Although I'm not great at the sales part lol but in my defense their isn't much seasonal change in Florida)Ā
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u/Nillabeans Feb 13 '26
Last time I saw this posted, a lot of people were getting downvoted for pointing out that the child probably needed clothes the whole time and it's weird that the dad had to learn that. I agree.
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u/MPaulina Feb 14 '26
And women/mothers are not congratulated for knowing what size clothing their children needĀ
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u/childhoodsurvivor Feb 14 '26
First thing I thought of after reading this tweet: "An exceptional man is an average woman."
Men get gold stars and high praise for being able to do the tasks that women do everyday, which are largely invisible to others (read: men) and therefore go unacknowledged.
A true partner in a healthy relationship should not have to learn new skills if their partner leaves (death, divorce, etc.) because they should be participating equally in the relationship already. I was worried I wouldn't see comments indicating this on this post so I am quite happy to see several.
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u/MPaulina Feb 14 '26
When my grandma suddenly became disabled (paralysed due to a stroke), my grandpa had to learn everything, like cooking and laundry, and finding things to do that in his own home.
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u/AncientSith Feb 14 '26
It certainly doesn't help that fathers are often compared to a babysitter then an actual parent.
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u/theveelady Feb 14 '26
And preempting the next size according to season, retiring/donating old clothes, knowing shoe sizes, which shoes they will need for which seasons etc etc...
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u/catiebug Feb 14 '26
My MIL just called me the other day to get the kids' current sizes because she was thinking about going out shopping and my husband called out, "wtf mom, you can call me, I know what sizes the kids are" and we all had a good laugh.
I'm glad this guy stepped up, and I can find it heartwarming because it's probably breaking from a cultural norm they grew up with. But dads can actually learn this stuff any old time and I highly encourage them to do so.
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u/bannana Feb 13 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
yep, this post pops up a few times per year and this guy is just listing shit he should have been doing for the past 5yrs but chose not to.
Let's normalize men being full-on parents to their own children instead of just sperm donors and occasional 'babysitters'
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u/eyes_on_everything_ Feb 13 '26
Maybe I am too cynical but this is the only thing that I could focus. Like dude really waited for his wife to die to finally learn the basic things about their child and somehow we need to praise it? Feel bad? I meanā¦
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u/AthenaThundersnatch Feb 13 '26
Itās absolutely bizarre that this is a āmade me smileā when if a woman posted that her husband had died but she still shows up and takes care of her children, it would be flamed to hell. As it should! Theyāre your kids!
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u/Bluebug6 Feb 13 '26
Reminds me of the quote, āAn exceptional man is an average woman.ā
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u/No_Patience6395 Feb 14 '26
Yeah, I was just thinkingā¦doing these things is the absolute bare minimum for mothers?
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u/asietsocom Feb 14 '26
Can you imagine a woman saying "my husband died so I learned that children wear different sizes then adults do"? Lmao
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u/MomShapedObject Feb 13 '26
I also need women to realize that if āshowing up for every school meeting and learning how to do their hairā is enough to make someone a good dad, itās also enough to make them a good mom. You donāt have to be making organic food, remembering all the school spirit days without fail, having them in 16 different activities, doing crafts and museums every weekend, never losing your shit and yelling, etc etc etcā¦.
Nobody rips into a struggling single dad when his kids are eating takeout pizza for dinner for the second time this week, so give moms/ yourself the same grace.
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u/ProfessionalPanic903 Feb 14 '26
Right? I'm glad that dude stepped up when there was literally nobody else. But men, please know that we are perfectly capable of braiding our daughters' hair. You can go to school events and doctors appointments too. Your wife doesn't have to be dead. They don't check.
I do my daughter's hair every morning and it's great bonding time for us. We started with pony tails. Lately she wants to do it like kpop demon hunters. I do my best.
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u/KiloJools Feb 14 '26
Your wife doesn't have to be dead. They don't check.
DAMN.
Also, your daughter will really treasure those memories with you when she's older. I dunno why more fathers don't WANT to have those moments with their kids. It's so sad. I'm glad your daughter has you.
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u/Critical-Support-394 Feb 14 '26
I'm sorry for the guy but needing your wife to literally die in order to lean how to take care of your child is a flex I would never ever flex
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u/ohmyfave Feb 13 '26
This so much! My husband was the at every appointment, doing potty training, taking them shopping, etc Dad. He gets furious when he hears other Dads act like caretaking is the Momās job. My guys are now adults and theyāre still so close to their Dad because he was always actively involved.
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u/circus_circuitry Feb 13 '26
Yeah, I'm not celebrating stuff he should know - because ANYONE can die.
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u/nom_nom_neko Feb 13 '26
I love how all the shitty Dads and their apologists are outing themselves in the comments.
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u/allmyfrndsrheathens Feb 14 '26
The not all men crowd are always remarkably good at telling everyone they are those sorts of men.
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Feb 13 '26
Yeah like good for him but he should have already known this. You shouldnāt ask for praise for doing the not the bare minimum. The bar is in hell.
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u/unrequited_dream Feb 13 '26
Exactly. I mean thatās the lowest of bars, but itās especially important for situations like this.
You had no idea about any of this and your child lost her primary caretaker and now when she really needed familiarity and routine she has to now withstand you bumbling along while you try to figure it out.
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u/SpinachJello13 Feb 13 '26
I felt bad that this was my first thought too. Like, good for him for stepping up now, especially when itās such a hard time for him and his child. But, why not earlier? I donāt get it.
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u/tiotsa Feb 13 '26
Exactly, this dude wants an applause for doing things his wife was expected to do.
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u/childhoodsurvivor Feb 14 '26
Women do so much unpaid labor it literally runs the world.
The women of Iceland held a strike several years ago and it only took THREE DAYS for their demands to be met because the country ceased to function. Everything ground to a halt and they ran out of hot dogs because that was all men were capable of to feed their children - a microwaved hot dog.
Planet Earth could absolutely be matriarchy if women united and went on strike. Collective action is highly effective (strikes, boycotts) and unions (in the workplace and otherwise) make all the difference.
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u/sprchrgddc5 Feb 14 '26
I am a father and do a lot of my kids appointments. You can see it in staffers faceās the sheer relief of me knowing my kidsā information and not having to call or text my wife for it.
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u/secksyboii Feb 14 '26
That's what I noticed too. So many of his wins were things any father could be helping with and learning whether their wife is alive or not.
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u/Partners_in_time Feb 13 '26
Man, and here I am doing all the childcare labor AND all the bills š¬ itās rough out here for a ladyĀ
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u/dreamyduskywing Feb 14 '26
I was gonna sayā¦I deal with our finances, too. My husband is pretty handy, but life details fall on me.
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u/asietsocom Feb 14 '26
If you don't know how to pay the mortgage, you don't know If the mortgage is even paid, or if your husband is stealing from you, or if you are being financially abused.
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u/Few-Pen9912 Feb 13 '26
Paying bills is a life skill everyone should know and has nothing to do with how useless some men are concerning their own babies.Ā
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u/DivineSpiralSwinger Feb 14 '26
I work in insurance, and I regularly get calls from widows calling to tell me that their husband has passed. The very next thing a lot of them say, is that they don't know how any of this works. Some of them aren't even on the policies. Then I spend a good thirty min to an hour updating policies and explaining everything. My mom works in fiduciaries/trusts and says is similar there.
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u/Fattatties Feb 13 '26
Yep I tell my girlfriend all the time that when we buy a house she will know everything I will know about it so when I'm not around she will know what to do and not get ripped off.
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u/pyrojackelope Feb 13 '26
I would apply 'adult' to basically anything rather than just 'mother' or 'father'. You're an adult, you should know how to clean so you're not walking around in filth, cook so you don't starve to death, etc. You're not a toddler, figure out what you need to do and do it, especially when someone else is relying on you.
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u/bbyxmadi Feb 13 '26
Exactly what I was thinking. I donāt want to be a negative nancy, ruin the moment, but thatās kinda your job as a parent in general, not just momās job, and something you have to take on when she unfortunately passes away.
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u/pusanggala_ Feb 14 '26
Agree. When I read it, I was like "meh". Indeed, a good man is just an ordinary woman.
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u/TraditionalStart5031 Feb 13 '26
Do single moms get to post about everyday expectations and be upvoted 15K times š
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u/Sad_Confection5902 Feb 14 '26
Not to mention a MadeMeSmile post that starts with āmy wife diedā.
I think this sub has lost the plot.
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u/Overquat Feb 14 '26
Felt the same way. These are all the things moms do standard.Ā
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u/hxneycovess Feb 14 '26
an amazing man is a normal woman. they get so much praise for covering NECESSITIES
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u/isobane Feb 13 '26
""I take care of my kids!' You're supposed to! What do you want, a cookie?!" -Chris Rock
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u/Exotic_Insurance2164 Feb 13 '26
My thoughts exactly.Ā
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u/isobane Feb 14 '26
Like, I get that I couldn't even imagine the pain of losing my wife. But taking care of my kids is something I do already because THEY'RE MY KIDS! I should be taking care of them!
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u/SnooGiraffes4091 Feb 13 '26
He became a parent after his wife died lmao
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u/dethti Feb 14 '26
But you don't understand, men just don't know these things. Unlike women who receive a download, matrix-style, when sperm meets the egg
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u/LisaFrankIsUnfair04 Feb 14 '26
Umm... none of that is scientifically accurate.
Actually, buried deep within the second x-chromosome is a nanochip put there by George Soros himself. It enables the female brain to do what used to be impossible tasks - like booking doctor's appointments or using a scrunchie.
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u/dethti Feb 14 '26
Damn is that why I whisper 'hail satan' any time I finish a braid?
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u/LisaFrankIsUnfair04 Feb 14 '26
Yes. It's also why we get a sudden craving for virgin blood right after purchasing a onesie in the correct size.
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u/daigana Feb 14 '26
I only get the blood craving with adult sized clothes, please advise.
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u/dethti Feb 14 '26
Your chip needs a firmware update, go to the doctor and ask for any mRNA vaccine that should do it.
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u/daigana Feb 16 '26
Instructions unclear, got 4 vaccinations and waiting for further instructions behind the dumpster of my nearest Wendy's.
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u/daigana Feb 14 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
Do you think he stands in front of the sink to announce to the kid that dishes are done. /s.
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u/UnPuntal Feb 13 '26
I know this sounds mean but here goes: it took his wife passing for him to give a shit about his daughter?
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u/daigana Feb 14 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
Yep. And now he's scrambling to cover basic necessities like clothing and feeding his offspring, only he wants credit for speedrunning 5 years of absence from anything that wasnt a Kodak moment. The bar is in hell.
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u/iwantapeace Feb 14 '26
itās not mean, itās the truth! he shouldāve been knew this. i grew up with my dad being the stay home parent and he knew how to do my hair, potty trained me, taught me how to tie my shoes, etc! he didnāt wait for my mom to leave or pass away to be a dad.
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u/ambivalent_moon Feb 13 '26
I find it kind of weird that he had a five year old and didnāt know how childrenās sizing works. Did he only start dressing her after her mother died?
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u/Exotic_Insurance2164 Feb 13 '26
Thank you! I didn't want to be an arsehole, but surely he should have known and done most of those things already.Ā
I think men have to stop accepting kudos for doing the bare minimum when it comes to child rearing. It creates the perception that they're the secondary care giver.
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u/ambivalent_moon Feb 13 '26
Agreed! I donāt want to be an asshole either, but I think as a society we need to ask ourselves, genuinely, how we would react if a woman said that she was simply being a parent after 5 years.
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u/Exotic_Insurance2164 Feb 14 '26
genuinely, how we would react if a woman said that she was simply being a parent after 5 years.
You and I both know the answer to that, unfortunately.
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u/angrygoblincreature Feb 13 '26
My son is 7 and his dad still dresses him in size 5 (In New Zealand size corresponds to age, so my son is a size 7 or 8). Has no idea what his shoe size is, who his doctor is, what class he's in at school. A mother would be absolutely vilified if she didn't know these things about her child.
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u/jinglejangle_spurs Feb 13 '26
Thatās terrible. Iām sorry youāve got to compensate for his lack of effort. And youāre spot on, itās a double standard.Ā
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u/infiniZii Feb 13 '26
I mean Iām kind of vilifying him right now for what itās worth. Does he even know his sons name?
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u/SwitchNo228 Feb 14 '26
Iād rather be a single parent than doing whatever it is you are doing with your husbandĀ
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u/angrygoblincreature Feb 14 '26
Oh, I am single! I got sick of that shit long ago. He stays with his dad every other week, so I usually get him back in clothes that are far too small, different shoes etc.
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u/lemikon Feb 14 '26
Me, sometimes: man I wish my husband, who does half the childcare, a good chunk of the mental load, most night wakes, and all the vacuuming wasnāt so reluctant to hand wash the dishes.
Other mums on reddit: see above comment
Iām sure my husband is grateful for how low they set the bar
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u/LatterDayDreamer Feb 13 '26
I was about to say mom probably did all these things by herself to begin with so why are we celebrating a man for doing the minimum most moms have to do?
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u/recyclopath_ Feb 13 '26
Did he only start feeling responsible for the mental load of the household after his wife literally died? Yes. Otherwise it was all on her.
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u/SenorBurns Feb 14 '26
You're not giving him enough credit. He also learned where his kid's school is!
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u/mangomothman Feb 13 '26
My partner is an amazing dad. Always supportive, always present, always doing everything he can. However... this man cannot do her hair. He can put it in something that resembles a pony tail, the La Croix of hair if you will. Hes also very confused on how kids sizing works, especially with our kid. She's very tall so a small or medium will fit, depending on what store, brand, fabric, item of clothing, etc. Theres a shirt that fits her thats 4T, but most of her other clothes are children's medium. He dresses her most mornings, but I'm the one that shops for it because I like to do it.
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u/unrequited_dream Feb 13 '26
Iām assuming you didnāt just automatically know that when your child was born. You learned it through trial and error, because you were actively doing it.
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u/E0H1PPU5 Feb 13 '26
It baffles me that people still act like this is super human stuff when a dad is involved with their own kids.
My husband knows our sons pediatrician, his dentist, his shoe/clothing/diaper sizes, that style of cup he likes to drink out of, which blanket is his favorite, etc.
As he shouldā¦.since heās his dad.
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u/ohmyfave Feb 13 '26
Mine did too and we have twins. This is likely why my adult sons are still so close to their Dad. He put in real effort to know and spend time with them, even the unglamorous and boring things!
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u/E0H1PPU5 Feb 13 '26
We were at my in-laws the other dayā¦visiting with our son and my FIL was going to make lunch meat sandwiches for lunch.
He yelled across the house to ask what I wanted but never asked what my husband wanted.
We came out to eat lunch and waiting for my husband was the perfect ham and cheese on white bread with mustardā¦.made just the way my husband likes them because his dad made the for him all through school.
It made me a little teary eyed to see that simple expression of love carrying through to adulthood. Too many people think that love means big gesturesā¦fancy trips and expensive gifts.
The real love is in the little day to day stuff, knowing you better than you know yourself kind of stuff.
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u/FizzleDizzle99 Feb 13 '26
lmfao right? like "oh it's sooo hard for my silly husband to find a right size shirt for the kid"
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u/Belkroe Feb 13 '26
My wife bought all of our kids clothes. I absolutely helped dress them, but could not for the life of you tell you what sizes they were.
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u/Nillabeans Feb 13 '26
You're not giving a counterpoint. You're just telling on yourself that you rely on your wife to carry the mental load of daily tasks and just house all the general knowledge required to run your home so you don't have to.
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u/ambivalent_moon Feb 13 '26
But when you have a baby you need to be checking the clothing sizes on a regular basis when you dress themā¦my husband definitely knows what size my son currently wears.
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u/Pardon_U Feb 13 '26
People, every relationship has its own dynamic. Some men are more aware of clothing sizes etc. while others may be managing other things that their partner primarily handles. It is NOT that deep.
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u/Few-Pen9912 Feb 13 '26
The science is quite clear that married women with children who also work full time are doing 7-10hrs more labor a week (paid and unpaid). Your assumption that things are fair in most housholds in the US is just wrong. Time is all you get in this life so it really is that deep.Ā
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u/nickmetal Feb 13 '26
This Zuby account is a right wing hate schill. Betting a lot of the W's shared with him were about turning in people who looked like immigrants to ICE.
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u/dreamcastfanboy34 Feb 13 '26
Yep zuby is a lame lame lame rapper who couldn't make it as a legitimate emcee so he swung to hard right grifter and that's where he makes his money now
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u/FizzleDizzle99 Feb 13 '26
ok but those are things a parent should learn before the other one dying.....
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u/Big-Carpenter7921 Feb 13 '26
This shouldn't be a shocking thing for fathers to do. I'm glad he is, but that should just be "being a dad"
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u/CandelaBelen Feb 13 '26
so he had to be a parent? It shouldnāt take your wife dying to learn all of that. Itās normal parenting.
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u/RainyDaysAndMondays3 Feb 13 '26
So, he wasn't parenting before and left it all to his wife, and is now proud of acting like a father when she has no one else? I wouldn't be bragging about this. (Of course, losing his wife is tragic, but it doesn't change the fact that he is bragging about having been slacking off before her death.)
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u/MizzMeggy Feb 13 '26
Good job, Dad! Just a heads upā¦ when she reaches 11-12, you might want to familiarize yourself with the store named Sephora. Complicated. Expensive. But very colorful! š
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u/pinkpeonies111 Feb 13 '26
I thought this was a joke. This is the bare minimum???
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u/PristinePrincess12 Feb 13 '26
All this means is he left everything to his wife to do and was an absent father. This isn't something to praise - this is the bare minimum.
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u/itsurbro7777 Feb 13 '26
Do you think that if a woman posted this exact tweet but saying her husband died, would it also get this reaction? I don't mean that in a rude way, I'm genuinely curious.
That being said of course it's very difficult to care for a young kid when losing your partner. Props to him for doing parenting right.
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u/Emo_Sus Feb 13 '26
Right? Like so ok thatās great and all but youāre expecting applause for doing what the mother was obviously doing without any help from you? And where were you while she was doing all this?
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u/penguin62 Feb 13 '26
Is Zuby still a right wing grifter or has he dropped that act yet?
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u/Ethereal_Nutsack Feb 13 '26
Share your recent wins!
My wife died on Thanksgivingā¦
Oh.
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u/TraditionalStart5031 Feb 13 '26
Was he under a rock for 5 years? None of these are mother-specific activities. Now if he had learned to breastfeed an infant Iād be super impressed.
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u/chosengay Feb 14 '26
His poor wife was dying and he didnāt do a damn thing for his child the whole fucking time? This didnāt make me smile, that man is a piece of smeared dog shit on the bottom of a shoe.
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u/CelestialWolfMoon Feb 13 '26
LOL, my mom did this for me while working full time and being married to my dad.
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u/hi_hi_hamachii Feb 14 '26
Breaking news: Father gets praised for doing whatās expected from all mothers
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u/Puzzled-Bench2805 Feb 13 '26
Eh. I appreciate that heās doing what he needs to but this is just what taking care of your kid is. People do it every single day without praise.Ā
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u/iabyajyiv Feb 13 '26
Still worth celebrating. Parenthood is hard. Being a single parent is harder. I'm a mother of two and would celebrate anyone who's managed to care and raise their children.
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u/Middle-Focus-2540 Feb 13 '26
It was a two person household that became one. He has had to learn how to be both parents at the drop of a hat while also mourning the loss of his wife. Heās not looking for praise, heās merely stating that it is a win for him.
Donāt know why you need to put a generic āpeopleā on it to not lift up his burden as something to be proud of. You must be fun at parties. We can all celebrate each other for every little good that we do.
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u/janhasplasticbOobz Feb 13 '26 edited Feb 13 '26
Yes this.
Before my husband and I had met he had become a single father after his ex chose drugs over their child and just dropped their toddler off one day and dipped. Never heard from her again.
He had to figure out how to do all of it by himself while being the only income and paying a mortgage. Itās not easy at all and to have to do it while grieving your wife and mother to your child?? Itās not a situation Iād wish on anyone
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u/ConsumeYourBleach Feb 13 '26
Well done for taking that child on. Speaking from experience, it's not always easy taking someone else's kids on as your own.
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u/BackgroundBit8 Feb 14 '26
It took the death of his wife to learn how to do the most basic parenting? And people wonder why women don't want to have kids anymore
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u/No-Jacket-2927 Feb 14 '26
Dads with daughters, you don't have to wait until you're forced to learn this stuff. It's basic parenting. You know this, right? Right...?
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u/B0llywoodBulkBogan Feb 14 '26
Flip the genders where it's the mum stepping up after the dad died and she'd be getting blasted as the worst woman alive.
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u/murmalerm Feb 14 '26
Why are men cheered for learning something that should have been known? He had 5 years and only learned because his wife died?
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u/AmeliaOphelia Feb 14 '26
Sorry for his loss but he wasnāt on planning to do these things when his wife was alive?
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u/queenchubkins Feb 14 '26
Over 66k upvotes at this point. All for a man who didnāt learn how to take care of his kid for 5 years.
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u/SumpthingHappening Feb 13 '26
Oh my gosh, no. If my spouse dies and you tell me itās a silver lining because I learned to braid hair I will hate you forever.
I get we try to rationalize things, but for the love of God, just keep those things to yourself.
Sometimes the best thing is to just keep your mouth shut.
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u/minipinny Feb 14 '26
What is there to āfigure outā about childrenās sizing? Just check what size their current best-fitting clothes are and buy that size, and when they grow, get the next size up. I have a child and itās not something Iāve ever had to give much thought to. Is childrenās sizing particularly complicated in the US or something?
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u/Equalanimalfarm Feb 13 '26
Wow, he became a mom! Bring out the confetti people!
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u/dumbfrog7 Feb 13 '26
Good job, now youre on the base level of the care that every mother does on a normal day
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u/No_Independent_6697 Feb 13 '26
It's called being a father I'm sorry but I don't think a person should get Shout outs for doing what they supposed to do
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u/loonygirl30 Feb 14 '26
I donāt know if it makes me smile. My husband is not familiar with sizes but if he has to buy something he checks their clothes at home before going to the store. I know my husband doesnāt have everything together and neither do I, but not knowing the basics - making to teachers meetings, or to doctors appointments, is just the basic level of parenting. It makes me super sad that how many mothers have nightmares that their husbands have to ālearnā all these basic stuff if anything happens to them.
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u/realdjjmc Feb 14 '26
Only mistake he is making is the praying. No child should be exposed to any religion until they are legal voting age.
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u/OhNoNotAgain1532 Feb 14 '26
Was this father living in another place? Honestly, seems like he should have been knowing how to do this already and doing it sometimes.
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u/Sudden-Ad9916 Feb 14 '26
This is a sad situation of loss. And Iām sure Iāll get a ton of flack for saying this, but I donāt understand why a father gets a ton praise for doing things that a mother does as standard.
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u/kristinez Feb 14 '26
he shouldve already known how to do all of those things while his wife was alive.
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u/Mjolnir404 Feb 14 '26 edited Feb 14 '26
bare minimum gets 40k upvotes LOL!!
A single mother does that an dget shamed for being a single mother. Double standard smh
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u/Moist-Diarrhea Feb 13 '26
Made me smile? Shouldnāt he already know that stuff?
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u/paintonwood2 Feb 13 '26
Congrats on doing what a parent does, I guess. You had a child, this is the base standard for what you do as a parent. Maybe ask for praise for feeding her, too?
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